match.com...... would you sleep with someone on a first date?

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Met someone I had been chatting to for sometime through internet dating site last night..... I did not but could have easily ended up in bed! I really was very tempted (he seemed lovely!) would that have made me a bit of a tart? Have not been on a date for years and it might (possibly) have been something I could have done as a 20 year old (I never did that said) but would not have expected it of myself at age 37!!!!

No, I really really wouldn't. I would want to give myself time to get to know them and trust them and I would want to play a bit of a flirtatious game, rather than handing it to them on a plate at the end of dinner.

If there is real chemistry sometimes it's inevitable.

If you can hold out for ages maybve the attraction isn't that strong.

Saying that I've never internet dated so don't know if difficult riles apply.

In fact I've never really dated. All my relationships have started with me already knwoing the bloke (work, friends etc) flirting, and finally getting drunk and shagging.

I'm noy advocating this of course.

Well I really really do enjoy sex! I just hink that in the early days of a relationship it's nice to tease and tantalise and keep a bit of mystery, that's all. sorry if you disagree.

personally I wouldn't, but each to their own.

I slept with DP on the second day of meeting him.
We had chatted constantly online for over a month, hours at a time, so it wasn't like he was a stranger.

Did feel a bit of a tart but feel better for reading these! Everyone to their own I guess, attitudes I think have changed since I was last dating and it seems now that yes it is acceptable for women to jump in (as long as they are sure) as soon as they think fit!!
Thanks everyone!

NO

i wouldnt

i met DH on match.com and had been talking via internet and phone for 6 weeks before he travelled the 140 miles to meet me! It had been arranged he was staying with my friend and her husband for the night but it didnt work out like that and despite us talking about expectations etc we did sleep together on first night (DH says he clincehd the deal!)

Loving Desi's schlonger!

I wouldn't, but only because I'm insecure and would like to know he's interested in more than sex. I love sex, which makes the first time pretty brilliant after all that tension.

However, I definitely won't think someone's tarty or whatever if they do (nor that they're boring if they don't either). I just won't myself.

If he is only interested in sex, he would bugger off after doing in 3 hours of meeting or 3 months of dating

If someone likes you and you like them, I don't see why not. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be

If the man thinks less of you, then he is twat of the highest order and doesn't deserve you anyway

No I wouldn't. Its a while since I've met someone through the internet and have only slept with one out of around 8 and that was on the second date. (Small willy). I saw him once after that but didn't bother going there.

Usually if I meet someone through friends or other means I will sleep with them on the second or third date. I'm trying to change tack now as I end up in relationships that are wrong for me and have to break off a few months down the line. Its getting very tiresome and I'm wasting my time.

Next time I meet someone I want to weigh up if I think they are what I'm looking before we get into the physical then hopefully it might last.

If you really like him then go for it next time. I'm .

Yes I would if I wanted to.

In my experience if it feels right and everything it doesn't affect what men later think of you, I slept with quite a few exes after a first date.

I've also had plenty of fuck buddies who I got to know over many dates before sleeping with.

It really does depend, I don't think it is a one size fits all answer.

I did once......we've been married for 20 yrs now.