I think this is really foul but maybe I have lived a sheltered life and it's just a PUNK thing...

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A friends DP apparently asked her when they got together if he could spit in her mouth when he came - he was (well, still is) a punk but don't know if that is relevent - she was horrified and said n, never.

Well they have been having an awful time recently and after a protracted few weeks of hostitities they made up and when they next had sex he did this. Not a lot she said, but still a spit.

She hit the fucking roof, as you'd expect. She had almost had it with him before, now she can't stand him. I feels really sorry for her. For all of me and DP's problems he's never done anything so contemptuous - that's all I can think it is; truly hateful - ugh

This is not normal behaviour is it durig 'relations' is it??

No Zippi - he asked about it 12 years ago when they got together - he's only just decided to do it now they are having intimacy problems - like you would...

well he should be on a final warning for the non revolving door imo does he have any redeeming features

i can think of another 4 letter word for him...
how utterly revolting he sounds
your friend will be well rid by the sounds of it.

he would have to really concentrate to do both - have a good aim! I wonder if he can pat his head at the same time

lol beety

Uuugghh
How disrespectful. It's pure contempt. He wants to spit in her mouth? And he did it without her consent? Uugh.

Yucky!! Each to their own if both consenting adults but if he knew she didn't want him to do that, then it's extremely wrong! Very disrespectful.

Just a little spit she said. Not a big greaser. He'd obvioulsy been planning it though. It would take a bit for forethought, logistics wise.

apart from disrespectful it seems a bit well pointless

i can t imagine he is doing it for sexual pleasure

Very disrespectful, I would be fuming and get rid of the twat!

she needs to bin him off sharpish. Sounds like a junkie twat IMO.

This is another of the really horrible, vicious, degrading things that have risen out of the spread of 'gonzo' porn on the internet.

Your poor friend . He sounds vile.

well I dunno if it is from gonzo - he did ask 12 years ago first, so it seems to be 'just^ a personal foible...

Agree, can't see that's it's to do with being a punk more that he's a disrespectful knobhead.

What does he want, some sort of mirroring of his coming, spitting both ends so to speak? She said no, and he did it anyway. Nice.

Yes - I think internet porn etc is normalising it in a way - I mean obviously it's not normal, but seeing it and variations on the net (and I have heard of it before) makes people who would normally keep their fouler side to themselves think it's ok to ask/do IYSWIM?

But I agree with everyone else - the porn thing is kind of irrelevant (just really pisses me off) - it's all about their relationship here. He wants to degrade her.

He asked 12 years ago and then recetnly after they had been having a hard time he actually got round to it?

the punk thing has reminded me: back in the day someone once gobbed in Joe Strummer's mouth when the clash were playing and he contracted hepatitis, or so legend has it.

it's not normal but if that's what he's into there's nothing wrong with it.
what is wrong is going ahead and doing it anyway when he knows his dp didn't want him to.

personally i don't think anything is out of order in a relationship once both parties are happy with it.
in this case one party clearly wasn't and that's not on.

it's not normal but if that's what he's into there's nothing wrong with it.
what is wrong is going ahead and doing it anyway when he knows his dp didn't want him to.

personally i don't think anything is out of order in a relationship once both parties are happy with it.
in this case one party clearly wasn't and that's not on.

gross
not normal imo

if they both were into I wouldn't have heard about it. She was mortified and I think only told me as she couldn't believe it herself.

She apparently told him to leave - was sick of it all - a couple of days ago but just couldn't go through with it.

I'm not so worried about the saliva aspect, I mean lets be real there's a lot of 'exchanging' going on when you're having sex. BUT I am concerned that it's an act of disrespect and is demeaning to the OP especially when she said it was NOT something she would entertain. I think he did it simply to demean her...so really she should tell him where to go, there's no happy ending I can see.

Oh well...

She fouund symetrical scratches on his back last week - he had no idea they were there and took off a t.shirt in front of her. On her questioning he got defensive.

She knows he has been having a flirtation at work with someone for weeks and it's been getting her down but he has always said it was nothing, just a silly flirtation.

Then he admitted last night that it was more. That 'snogging' had been going on. But no sex (by the Clinton definition I think - no intercourse but plently of 'heavy petting' as they used to call it)

This after weeks of him telling her she should trust him.

She is in the terrified and confused stage. She still loves him - that's why it hurts so much - but is so angry. She hasn;t the courage to throw him out, can't face doing that to their children. He is on the sofa. Contrite and desperate to make things work, now he is upset.

What a nob.

What a tosspot