Out of the blue tonight DH started quizzing me about why I used to do circuits with a friend (male). This ended in a stupidly protracted argument/ discussion about trust issues in which he said that he wanted to get DD (nearly 3) DNA tested (am I on Jeremy Kyle?), called me a bi**ch, said that he hated me for my past, I was so lucky that he has put up with everything that I had given him.
Been together for 4.5 years - said circuits was 4 years ago - all platonic. He asked me to stop going and although I was emabarassed to admit to myself I was 'doing what I was told', I eventually told friend that I was stopping our circuits meeting for a quiet life.
DH from almost-middle-eastern country. Me: loyal woman who has had some relationships before I got married i.e. normal. Never even thought about anyone else since we met.
I have always told him that I will never be disloyal - if I want to leave him it will not be because I am with somone else.
DH not much of a talker - how do I get him to address his serious trust issues. We bumble on OK most of the time but occaisonal outbursts occur. Usually irrational and paranoid. I know this is a big skeleton in our closet and that it could undo us and I am not prepared to be attacked like this when I have not done anything but try to be a good wife and Mum.
Help! Please!