HELP - The past 11 years a complete lie - so confused

[confused7704]

Just found out that other half isn't the ANGEL he has made me believe he is for 11 years (hurts like hell believe me). Found pay as you go phone hidden in the garage but SIM card was blank (as bought SIM card reader). Anyone have any ideas where he could be hiding another SIM card???? I have turned house upside down and looked in Garage but the size of a SIM card could be hidden ANYWHERE - any ideas as I need to find something before I go insane!! NO good asking me to confront him as he is a born liar and will worm his way out of anything - I know that as had my doubts over the years and he has always managed to talk me round as if I'm imagining it all and put all the blame back on me. I feel I have come so close only to find the SIM card blank. Would like to actually just for once be able to catch him out!! Cheers!

He will be deleting all record of anything anyway.

Hide the phone - which i persume has a sim card in anyway - he will panic - watch his reactions and then make sure you follow him somehow to get the evidence to think you need. He may even get another phone - but any calls you get to this phone you can check on.

But as you know this is not a healthy relationship and actually the best thing to do is to just walk away - say you owe him no more of an explanation anyway and file for divorce. Dont even give him the satifaction of being able to twist it back on you.

Say you have proof and will use it if need be - but goodbye forever. He will either say you are being silly and try and scare you into staying with him (using money or children is the classic) or will come clean and beg for your forgiveness. If he says it is all your fault and say you are mad - then say yes you can try and cite that in a divorce and then take your dignity and leave, or make him leave you alone.

Good luck

can you see a charger anywhere? is there electric socket in the garage? if so,i'd suspect the sim might be in garage with a charger?

as for places to look.....taped inside a drawer,underside of a shelf? brie5

Confused, Mamazon is right, it's like you need the simcard to give you a reason to leave. You don't.

The fact that he is abusive, controlling, and a cheat is enough.