Is there a time when you just have to accept your "lot" and get on with it or should we always stick up for ourselves and our own needs?
Don't get me wrong - DH is for the most part a great partner and father. He is generous to a fault, loves the kids and contributes to the running of the house more than a lot of husbands I know.
In 2003 we had a terrible year - I wrote on MN about some of it i.e. my MIL as very ill and died and I had an awful falling out with my own parents but that was only the tip of the iceberg, it was really annus horribulus (sp?). I am not one to go into things with strangers so I didn't say anything to anybody - least of all on MN. In a nutshell, DH and I both f*ed up - we left each other emotionally and things got really out of control, other people were involved and it got very ugly. We worked really hard and fixed things but some things havent changed i.e.
DH has the awful habit of speaking to me like I am a moron - he does it in shops and when have visitors - he doesn't mean it but has difficulty expressing himself and very often ends up making me look like an idiot in order to get his point across. This upsets me and I have asked him over and over to try harder - which he does periodically and then it goes back to the same old same old...
Sorry this does have a point - DH being so rude to me has caused me to reflect on our relationship, I end up thinking things like are we flogging a dead horse? Can huge problems and issues be fixed or am I fooling myself? What do you think? Do problems get fixed or do we just put them away for another day?