Am 36 weeks pg. and so attending Parentcraft and ante-natal classes all over the place. I am finding the attitudes of HV's and mwives really old fashioned in terms of how they present the relationship side of things. Me and my dh sit there in amazement as they come out with things like (and this is a quote from last night's labour talk) " and girls, make sure you have made some sandwiches for your chap for labour as he will be in there for some time with you" . MAKE YOUR OWN SANDWICHES I say, think as the one who is huge and nervous I will have better things to think about / do. And this is by no means the only example. When the general approach is that men are poor incapable creatures who will starve within 24hrs of us being "out of action" it is not surprising that they act like this is the case. One HV last week suggested that one thing the "boys" could do to "help" out in the first few weeks or months was to "BABYSIT"!!!!! Am I the only one who fails to see that this does not send out a good message on parenting / relationships to men?
Needed to get taht off my chest...
And no, my dh is not perfect but he certainly knows where the hoover is, how to iron and how to feed himself and me!