Is there anyone here from Canada that can give me some help for my Aunty - suffering domestic abuse.

[bythepowerofgreyskull]

She lives near Toronto
she has been divorced and remarried this man - she has been planning to leave him as he is a very very unpleasant man but he has discovered her secret bank account and taken her to the bank and made her trasfer the funds to the "joint" account and taken her bank cards off her she now is only allowed a little cash that he gives her weekly.

He has discovered her secret Yahoo email address so it is hard for us to correspond any more.

I have heard of WomensAid in this country and wondered if there were organisations like this in Canada.

I can't force her to do something she is terrified of but I want to help get things in place for her so that the minute she feels able that she CAN leave him.
He will never leave the house so it will be her that will have to leave.
Her son is worse that usless and thinks the sun shines out of his Dad#s A*se.

She is only 59 years old, She is far too young to live the next 30 years in a miserable existance.

If anyone can help I would really appreciate it.

Thanks

what is the time difference to Canada?

to toronto it's 5 hours from the uk.
i'm canadian but don't know much about places to get help for domestic abuse. sorry. i hope your aunt is ok.

Thanks PMDW
I was just thinking that the canadian contingent may not be online yet..

24-hour abuse crisis line at (416) 863-0511 or toll-free at 1-866-863-0511. Further information is also available on-line at www.awhl.org/contact.htm.

Interest-free loans for women fleeing violent homes

thank you portandlemon,

Nellie's emergency shelter and support services

P&L I am sat here with tears streaming down my eyes,

THANKYOU she is so far away and I was so worried about trying to get some practical support for her, he is so controlling I just want to free her!!

Thank you thank you thank you!!!

Having lived in Canada for 8 years - and my daughter is living and studying sociology at Uni there, I can tell you that their system is far better than ours. (More funds, far richer country) and also a highly politically correct nation. I will see if daughter is up and about and get her to send a few addresses. What part of Toronto does she live in?

Just near outside Cambridge (south west of Toronto)
Thnaks

Just got daughter on msn and she says theres a nr. you can call and they will forward onto correct channels she just has to dial 211. They will help her and direct her to nearest center/helpline re her needs. She has to tell them roughly what the situation is and they will get her in contact with right department etc. They are very helpful.

It is 24 hours service.

THANK YOU Kally,

I just have to find a way of getting all this information to her without her husband knowing.

right, bumping an old thread.

Things are finally on the move,
she has secretly been to a solicitor today but it is all going to have to be a fast and suprise exit.

anyone with uptodate information, also if anyone has a link to the womens aid packing list that has been on here (did a quick search but can't find it!!!)

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please??

I don't know if this is the list you're looking for but a forum search found me this list:

• Some form of identification.
• Birth certificates for you and your children.
• Passports (including passports for all your children), visas and work permits.
• Money, bankbooks, cheque book and credit and debit cards.
• Keys for house, car, and place of work. (You could get an extra set of keys cut, and put them in your emergency bag.)
• Cards for payment of Child Benefit and any other welfare benefits you are entitled to.
• Driving licence (if you have one) and car registration documents, if applicable.
• Prescribed medication.
• Copies of documents relating to your housing tenure (for example, mortgage details or lease and rental agreements).
• Insurance documents, including national insurance number.
• Address book.
• Family photographs, your diary, jewellery, small items of sentimental value.
• Clothing and toiletries for you and your children.
• Your children's favourite small toys.

Hope that helps. Good luck to your aunt!

All power to your Aunt. Hope everything goes smoothly for her. Must be terrible to feel so far away. :(

Thank you!!

I have copy pasted it into an email to my mum, I can't send it to her as he prescreens her emails.

Women's Aid guide to a Safety Plan = they suggest teaching children to use 999 (or equivalent) in emergencies and add to the packing list any evidence of the abuse; police logs, letters, solicitor stuff etc

also read "protecting yourself after you have left"

thanks LF.

bumping for a different crowd

Jesus, has it taken all this time to get her this close to getting out that poor woman.

((hugs to you all))