Hi Mums
My dh works a 60-70 hour week and come Friday night he usually returns home but over the last 6 months he has taken to meeting friends (who do not have children) at a local bar then going back to one of their houses and doesn't return home until saturday morning upon which he then goes to sleep for most of the day. When writing this down it looks like he is having an affair - but I think that I can trust him although at times I do wonder especially as sex between us os practically non-existent.
Since having our ds 16 months ago things have been difficult between us and we have been trying to respect eachother and make our marriage work. However, I do not know how much more I can take. I admit that I have become quite controlling because we cannot seem to agree on how a family should spend the weekend.
I work two days a week and have to do the morning droff off to nursery and pick up and do dinner and bed on my own every day of the week including weekends when he is home. I am also studying.
I have to ask and negotiate for him to do childcare tasks such as dinner, bath and bedtime and I can count on one hand the number of times he has got up woth ds in the early morning.
When we try to talk about what we need from eachother this it usually ends up in a slanging match and he says he feels like I am trying to control him. I want him to be present on the weekends which means being in the house not asleep and not on the sofa but up with the baby for at least one morning sat or sun and able and willing to help with the household and childcare tasks - I do not think this is a big ask and he cleary does. We have reached a point where communication has totally broken down and the behaviour is bad!
Advice needed for hotheaded new mum !