Me and husband have just split, help please

[JodieG1]

After another row last night where he hit me, was verbally abusive and bullying I finally asked him to leave. He's just gone now but I don't know what I should be doing.

I'm a sahm to 3 children, no savings and I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any advice?

This has been going on for years, he's been verbally abusing me, a bully and there has been violence before. Not sure what else to say.

Hi jodie , I was in your horrible shoes eight years ago i give you every sympathy- be strong- you are enough for your children and they will do well- tomorrow is another day . Concentrate on you and the little ones and be positive- you are not giving away anything good. They need you and not a lot else and any hardships are only temporary... trust me!! Not easy i know...

Well done. Well done, you did a really good strong brave thing in kicking the shitbag out. Now you've got to do one more brave thing and get it on record, that's your insurance and your safety and your speeding-up of help when he comes back and has another go. It will be hard but it will get easier and one day you will look back in joy and amazement at how far you've come and how good it is to be free.

Well done.. and congratulation an regaining control over your life again..
It really gets better every day..I kicked my ex (whose behaviour was very simillar to your husband) out only 2 months ago and already feel so much better...

But YOU REALLY NEED TO HAVE HIS VIOLENCE REPORTED...

I second every word SGB says 'that's your insurance and your safety and your speeding-up of help when he comes back and has another go''

Oh Jodie, I saw your previous thread, and didn't know it was you.

Well done for doing so well so far.

But please, please report the DV to the police.

call a lawyer

Jodie, very sorry to hear what you'e been through. So good you've left!

You need to log his violence!!! With a GP at least. Take pictures and get yourself examined. You have to do this!! It's so important. What if there's no record he did this? What about your kids? What if he gets visitation rights and starts hitting them and abusing them while you're not there?

Please record his violence, so that your children are safe. As their mother you owe it to them. Please see a lawyer.

Hi JodieG1 -

hope you got some sleep!

Thank you everyone. I'm feeling so much better, I haven't missed him at all or regretted my decision. I slept really well last night and feel great today.

I know I've done the right thing and now I can get on with my life with my children. I feel a million times better than when he was here, I was always worried about him moaning or shouting at me etc and now it's peaceful, or as peaceful as it can be with 3 young children but it's a good thing

JodieG1
Less than a year ago I was in a place similar to yours. These are early days for you but one thing is for sure there will be plenty of support for you here. You will most probably have good days when you feel really strong and not so good days. But you WILL get through it. I don't know if you were married but as others have said get a lawyer quickly and make the most of your strong days. Do you have help with the boys?