A bit of a tired ramble from a new Mumsnetter... )
Our first child was born two years ago but suffered brain injuries around birth. After months of hell and difficult choices she died this year due to an infection.
Very happy to say that two months ago we had another lovely healthy daughter. Great time but now the honeymoon is passing off and I'm feeling caught between three basically kind but often irritating characters - an insecure and unintentionally domineering mum , a SIL who can be great crosses the line into viewing my brother's children as her own (though she has 2 kids) and a MIL who has the start of dementia and is a big believer in complimentary medicine (sits and gives my daughter reiki though its not something I believe in personally). Feeling caught between trying to stand up for my own views and then not always being confident of the right thing to do. Probably the best thing to do is smile sweetly and agree but I try to put my own view across and end up feeling like a shrew. Other great factors like my Mum and SIL don't like each other, and the two sides of the family tend to have vey different approaches about feeding / handling / any issue you care to mention. DH is lovely but keeps his head down.
How do I take a chill pill about all this as its not going to go away? Its spoiling my time with my daughter a bit (who is pretty refluxy or collicky at the moment poor wee bunny, not really adding to feeling of calm!).