How can I get him to talk to me?

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Hello, regular, namechanger.

I am reaching the end of my tether with dh. He won't talk to me. He will witter on for hours (yawn) about what he did at work today but when it comes to anything important he clams up.

I need to talk to him about so much. I am lonely and miserable. I want to TTC but a) do I want another child with this man and b) he won't discuss it.

What to do?

I tried to talk to him last night and once again he switched off. Started pointedly watching the telly.

He isn't interested in how I feel or what I think I reckon.

Is this the beginning of the end?

I think girlnextdoor may have something there - are there things you can just do, without consulting him? It make your life more the way you want it?

You asked "catweazle, can I ask, did you make a conscious decision to stay?"

No. I was too scared to leave. By the time I realised I was unhappy I had 2 tiny children. I'd never lived on my own and I didn't think I could cope financially or in any other way by myself.

I also had the mindset that I had to have a third child (long story). We had a third and made my life much worse. Reading my diaries from that time I can't believe I was so stupid- we had 3 under 4. I'm neither patient nor organised and it was hell.

I can't tell you what to do, but if I had my time again I wouldn't be here now

Just to add, my DH doesn't like to do anything. I don't like sport but I enjoy things like ice-skating, dancing, horse-riding. I have to go with a child

I go to a ballroom class full of married couples. I take my teenage DS. While I do consider myself very lucky that my DS wants to do stuff with me, I really all the couples. There are certain dances that really require a togetherness that isn't appropriate between a mother and son so I'm not getting the full benefit of the classes.