Try to be brief- in huge dilemma.
Married for 25yrs, 2 DCs at uni. Had doubts before marriage but biological clock ticked and went ahead.
Not much in common- DH is reliable, caring, practical,honest, good worker etc etc. great Dad. Can't say he does much "wrong" except he doesn't do it for me anymore. Not same sense of humour, he doesn't "get inside my head" iykwim, sometimes I feel very lonely.
Very unromantic- useless at presents, taking me places, making me feel good. Unable to communicate feelings unless under great pressure from me. Feel neglected.
I almost had an affair years back and did not feel guilty- felt it was his punishment for not making a fuss of me.
Sex- none for YEARS. Had health issues- still have but not so bad- but gone off him sexually. He suffers in silence- won't talk unless I do. Ignores it when I say I have gone off him.
He has no friends and not a close relationship with his parents/brothers/sisters either. Bit of a loner.
I feel I am living a lie. Care about him, but no more than some of my friends. BUT we have 2 great DCs and I can't bear to hurt them - the would blame me forever. Also,money would be hard- we are comfortable he is due final salary pension in 8-10 years. I gave up professional career to have kids- work part time but not enough to be independent of him.
Is it worth splitting up at my age? I don't want anyone else, I just don't want to live a lie and want him to have someone who loves him for what he is.
Am I being totally stupid to think of giving up a good home, family life, etc etc?
Have you done it- and if so, what made you?