What's an acceptable age gap??

[essbee]

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Just saw this title...how did I know it would be you essbee?

so where you taking him then?

my dp is nine and a half years younger than me. i am 46 and he is 36 nearly 37. (god he is so young). not a toy boy i might add, as i have ten times more sex drive than him ! its not a perfect match at all. he is so boyish at times. poor devil has had a small learning curve being with me in many ways. but people all say how young i look and thought we were the same age. people would be so shocked if they knew how big the age gap is. ! !we are emotionally light years away from each other. he is not at the same point in his life as myself, pschologically. oh for a mature man of my own age with lots of sexdrive.

oh maltesers, that sounds so sad! Do you take consolation from the fact that he is less likely to leave you a widow when you are in your 60s or 70s though, or do you not see yourselves together by then?

Dh is 8 years older than me and it works really well. We do have the odd embarrassing moment when someone thinks that he is my dad rotfl but it's very amusing really. I don't think that the age matters as much as the person so I think you should go for it essbee!

theres 16 years between me and my dh, im 25 hes 41, and so far (touch wood) we have been together 5 years, have a ds together and all is good.
age is a state of mind, i think
"you're only as old as you feel"

16 years here too and we've been together 12 years. I do worry about whether I'll have a lonley old age but last year my colleagues wife died at just 33 so you never know whats going to happen.
DH has only just started to look his age whereas for years he looked YOUNGER than me - which really pisssed me off!!!
Kizziex

Wow Essbee! Good luck,....I hope he's good enough to deserve someone as lovely as you.

lonelymum, no i dont take some consolation in that he is younger and will not leave me a widow. the amount he has been smoking all his life i will outlive him! i am a keepfitaholic so may live longer unless i get taken out by a doubledecker ! dont know if we will last that long, we are always arguing. he is a fiery redhead !

HI I DONT THING AGE MATTERS.I AM 22 AND AM GOING OUT WITH A WONDERFUL 48 YEAR OLD. HES OLDER THAN MY DAD BUT I THINK PEOPLE HAVE REALISED THAT ONE: WE ARE TOGETHER TWO: WE MAKE EACH OTHER HAPPY THREE: WE LOVE EACH OTHER AND FINALLY IF THEY DONT LIKE IT THEY CAN GO AWAY!! AS LONG AS THE COUPLE ARE HAPPY AND DONT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH AGE THEN NOTHING SHOULD GET IN THE WAY! HOPE THIS HELPS

I don't think age really matters, it's more about maturity. I wouldn't go out with a lot of guys my age because they don't really know what they want and aren't ready to settle down and be serious about a relationship. But also I don't think I would have much in common with someone my dads age and would probably find that even if i got on really well with a guy that age, I would hate his friends!

i was really worried about meeting his mates but now that i know them i get on really well with them. everyone is friendly and its nice knowing that i get on with them which i think makes it easier for my man then.i think it depends on the individual in each situation