oh dear...

[whatawally]

I am anticipating a lot of flak from this so have changed my name to protect myself.

Basically. I love dh very, very much. But our sex life has been rubbish for awhile. My fault entirly, zero sex drive. Any way said sex drive decided to make a surprising return this week so we have been at it quite a bit. Dh is very pleased. But we ran out of condoms last night, having used the last one yetsreday evening. I was a bit insatiable and em well. You can guess what happened. Obviously we were planning the withdraw method (yes I know you should never, never do that). I am very naughty.

Anyway counted up the days after wards and I would have been on day 11 of a 29 day cycle. Has anybody had a mistake on this day and not got pregnant.

I have to say it wouldn't be an ideal time for a baby, but then is there really an ideal time?

I know days 10-14 tend to be your most fertile but it's not for sure you will get pg if you do the dirty on these dates is it.

For some background we already have 3 kids, and our sex life has always been dodgy but dp just seems to need to sneeze on me to get me pg.

Ok go on then, I am hiding behind a very large cushion!

first responce do one that can tell 6 days before your period is due

asda do a cheap twin pack that have worked well for me in the past.

i also dont like the idea of the map, taking the pill to prevent a pregnancy is one thing but i could not undo what nature had created iykwim.

Sorry but I really don't know what you want to hear. Yes everyone makes mistakes
You've said it all yourself. You said you can't take the MAP so its just tough.

If you are pregnant then your pregnant and looks like you'll be having another baby!

With every action there is a consequence.... Thats life.

kerryk, those are my reasons for not wanting the MAP too. And yes I know I should have been more careful. I am very naughty.

But I wouldn't be the first or last person to do this. And I also know given how easy I tend to fall pg, then this probably is a no brainer for me.

Cupcake- I agree with you too. That is life. I just find it funny how my sex life is usually rubbish and then every wip and flip I get insatiable. And it's not always in time with my most fertile times of the month. I admit the last time I actually wanted sex was months ago, that's how bad I am. Infact I believe the last time I really wanted sex we got pg with dd3.

Maybe it's nature's way of making the ideal spacing for my family. Lol.

No I wasn't expecting sympatetic, it all be alrights. I am fully resigned to what will be will be. I just wandered how common it would be for someone not to become pregnant on there fertile days. And obviously I am not including those who struggle to concieve , becasuse their's would be a different story anyway.

Our number 4 was a kit of an 'oooops' too - after a college friends 40th summer birthday party (could have been named PIMMs!) - oh well whats meant to be is meant to be. Was a bit of a but of course we wouldn't want to change anything about him now - just means another few extra years of nappies / child minding costs but keeps us young as he's a little stick of dynamite!!

had unprotected sex once and got pregnant

it can happen

Well when TTC years ago we shagged and shagged through the fertile times and didn't always have a lot of luck.

But DS2 was conceived on a night when I thought we were probably not safe not to bother to use a condom, but I was too pissed to really bother to mention it and DH was too pissed to ask if we needed one, and er um er yes well DS2 is absolutely lovely.

Couldn't believe it after all the trouble I had had conceiving/getting them to stick in the years before.

MAP not for me either I am afraid.

Also must add that I get extremely horny at the fertile time, so perhaps your sudden enthusiasm is an indication that you were at the crucial time.

Hey, 4 is a nice round number, don't you think?

If you object in principle to the MAP then you could have a coil inserted. That doesn't abort anything as such, it prevents implantation. You'd need to check with your family planning clinic, but I think you still have time.
Otherwise, it's your choice, and many congratulations if you do turn out pg. Cos you will never regret your child once born

very true alfreda. i often wish i would just fall pregnant by accident and that would take away all the shall we/shant we about no.3.

I thought the MAP prevented implantation as well?

Alfreda- I had a coil inserted once. I have a complicated history with contraceptives and hormones and being quite ill that has led dh and I to the point where I wont go on the pill or have contraceptives (did so for years). Dh is now in control of that area. That might sound a bit off but if you knew what we've been through the last few years you might understand. Tho that is a whole nother story that I dont want to go into right now.

Dh had been talking about a vasectomy but just not got around to it quite yet.

I'll put money on it that you are PG

Now, tell us who you are.....

Whatawally, I had ONE drunken unprotected shag last month on day 9 of a 25-26 day cycle and got pregnant with #3

in fact, I posted about it on here v much in same way as you have! I did think that I would be more amazed if I WASN't pg than if I was and turned out I was right....bet you are too

Dinny, I have to admit those are my feelings too.

Ladytophamhat-I will reveal all if am pg. You will have to wait and see.

I am a reguarler but not prolific poster, so perhaps one of the lesser known regulars. Tho if I told you my name you would almost certainly have heard of me.

I have family on here so really cant out all just yet.

I suppose I;ll have to click "watch thsi thread" then.

spoil sport

lol-it's always good to leave a bit of suspense.

It's well-known that women are hornier round about ovulation - also more likely to be unfaithful, and to conceive by the OM rather than DH, interestingly enough.

I hope you get whatever you wish for, whatawally.

I thought it was days 15 & 16 which were the peak days and that the girl sperm could hang around waiting for up to 4 days? If true then your risk is low...