If you tell someone you love them and they don't say it back..

[Janos]

This will sound rather eye rollingly daft...

Well I did this this morning...to my boyfriend of nearly 6 months.

Wouldn't have said it if I didn't mean it (and I do) but of course, he didn't say it back although he gave me a bug cuddle and kissed the top of my head.

Am I wrong to think I shoulda kept my big mouth shut? I feel like world's saddest dork.

You did absolutely the right thing - it's lovely to know you are loved, and honesty is a great policy for any relationship. it was brave of you to go first. well done

someones got to say it first, my bf said it first to me and i gave him a big cuddle, i felt the same way but i darent say it back just yet if that makes sense? You def did the right thing. He'll say it back when he's ready

Aw, thanks. I thought there'd be posts telling me not to be so daft and pull my socks up etc.

At least he didn't back away looking frightened!

I said it to my boyfriend once and got a cuddle and kiss on the head, and no answer.

He said it back when he was ready and feeling the same way. He is now my dh and we have been together over 10 years (married for 7.5). You meant it, don't worry.

This might sound strange, but maybe he didn't want you to think he was only saying it because you said it iyswim. Maybe he's going to save it for a "special" moment.

lol i said this to my bf last weekend

he said what did you say so i had to repeat it

i was buried in his face at the time

he didnt reciprocate but i had already assumed he wouldnt as to do so would be possibly a bit naff

possibly he will some time at least he knows how i feel about him which is why i said it

The 'not answering' makes sense he's not someone talks a lot. Quiet and thoughtful, but lots going on under the surface (one of the reasons why I feel so strongly about him).

I'm not sorry I said it really,even if he doesn't..because I did mean it and I'm not the sort of person who falls in love easily!

I told my boyfriend I loved him after 2 months and just could not understand why he didn't love me back. After about 5 months I told him I loved him and I knew he loved me, he just didn't know it yet. A while later he left work early to come and see me just to tell me he loved me. Been together 12 1/2 years, married for 9.

oh also when my bf said it to me, i kept thinking right i want to say it back bcoz i do feel the same way. Anyway a few hours later i was building up the courage to say it and he said i love you again, i thought great i CANT say it now! It took about a week of this before i bet him too it! lol.

Lol Zippi, I had my face buried in his neck when I said it.

I was working up my nerve to say it all weekend, wotta geek!

oh i took about 6 weeks

i started with i am getting feelings for you

I think I probably gave him a bit of a shock tbh. Being the quiet sort myself...!

i remember my ex built up the courage to say it to me, and i hugged him

i didnt say it back straight away as it would look like i felt pressured to say it

This is all really reassuring, thank you everyone

And I just got a lovely email from him saying that he misses me and is looking forward to seeing me again...so clearly I haven't alarmed him too much.

Never mind Janos. My dp says he'll never tell anybody he loves them again. He never has told me it. But I know he does. The birthday & Valentine's cards say so. He just never wants to say it again, only for some woman to make him look like a twunt. He's been too hurt in the past.

But you can tell by his behaviour if he feels for you. Words are only words. Actions speak too.

Yes, I believe that too littlewoman. Actions speak louder etc. Rather someone awkward but honest than some smoothy who says what they think you want to hear.

Anyhow I'm glad he knows it. Truly.

Exactly Janos. My xh told me he loved me every day and proved it by shagging half the town

You know what you know, no matter what words are spoken.

I've realised as well, thinking about it. It doesn't matter that much what his reaction was (well obv I'd have been upset if it was seeya bye! )

Just pleased I told him.

Actually, I'm happy that I have the capacity to love someone again because I never thought I would

Sorry, bit pukey I know...

thats nice janos

Thank you Zippi

It's a good feeling to have that's for sure.

I agree, Janos. I thought after xh I would die a cynical old prune. I felt negative for so long, it was like a new era had been born and I could see a future. Hope your relationship goes from strength to strength.

My girlfriend have been together for two months, and i want to tell her i love her. Would it be to early?