Do you ever have start really irrational arguments with DP/DH even though you know you're being really stupid but can't help it!!

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e.g. I'm really pissed with DP now because we were watching tele and i asked him if he had ever been in a helicopter and he said that yes he had when he took his ex to las vegas!!!!

So now i'm like "The only place we've ever been on holiday is in a field in the middle of lancashire!!!!"

think you have a right to be pissed off!!!

apparantly every time I argue with DH I always start it and its always irrational

i am knackered, was awake til 2 because he just doesn't understand and kept asking why it bothered me, no matter how hard i tried to explain HE JUST DOESN'T GET IT!!!!!!

You have no right to be pissed off just because he did something different with an ex he had before he met you. It's childish.

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I am always irrational with PMT other times I am quite normal lol

psml!memoo

and your net holiday destination is?

I had a similar situation once years ago, we'd been living together for about a year when I found out dp had proposed to his ex, not only was I narked because he hadn't proposed to me and had said how against marriage he was but also that he had chosen not to tell me then I felt hurt he had asked her but not me but he explained it hadn't meant anything they were young etc and that he had no intention of marrying her and that if he ever did ask me it would be because he actually wanted to be married and that our relationship was worth so much more that that one because we live together and share our lives everyday and we're still happy despite having the reality of bills to pay and kids to look after etc and that they had argued all the time and didnt even live together or have any responsibility to make life hard etc.

We are now planning our wedding for next year btw.

In a long winded way I mean yeah I get what you're saying and if I were you I'd be making sure we have a fab holiday somewhere sometime soon.

i wouldnt be pissed off as maybe she was high maintanance and he was trying to make her happy

and also she is an ex for a reason he is obviously happy and content and maybe you have never asked to do such things as your happy and content to

what any person did with an ex is because you were different people when with that person your happy and content together if you have things you would like to do mention it dont expect him to know and dont have the hump because in the past with an ex he did something

create memories of your own we all have pasts

i bet you have done things with an ex that you havent done with your dp now

i bet your looking at it as a romantic thing but maybe she wanted to do it and maybe it wasnt as fun as you think they didnt last did they

you have him your happy think of things to do together and dont think about the past it can drive a woman insane

I feel a bit sorry for your dp.

He can't take back what he did with his ex and he hasn't done a lot wrong really, nothing to deserve being kept up till 2 in the morning.

Maybe he is in a different financial position now and thats why you haven't been anywhere exotic with him?

I do understand irrational arguments though, dp cant win when I've got PMT, no matter how petty I'm being! (Then its him I feel sorry for)

I know i was being irrational, like i said sometimes you know you're being stupid but just can't help it!!! PMT is a powerful thing

Just for the record molly, it was him who kept me awake til two going on about it

I do this all the time. i just cant help it sometimes. i do feel for my DH sometimes!