Am I the only one who finds it EASIER when DH works weekends?

[halia]

Dh has just gone off to work in a temper, I knwo why and I know I am at fault as well but why oh why is it so much easier when he ISN'T here?

Its the silly things, like I am cooking tea or doing some washing whilst DS is playing in the same room as DH. every time DS will appear partway through my other chores, why can't DH just keep him occupied for a bit?

Then there's the things DH lets DS do, for example he decided to teach him how to bowl (for cricket), DS is 3 so of course just chucks the ball around and DH taught him to do this INDOORS! so now I have a herculean task of reinforcing the 'no balls inside' rule.

We went out for a walk - I'm trying the initial stages of potty training at the moment. I thought i'd made it clear to DH that teh first week would be more miss (and wet pants) than hits. But when DS wet himself halfway round DH got in a tizz and refused to let me and DS go round the corner and change into the dry trousers and pullup nappy i'd brought with us.

DS is harder to handle as well, he seems more hyper, and more clingy. He plays one of us off against the other and he won't play by himself as easily.

I know I'm bloody awful to DH (naggy and sarcastic) at times but I'm just so sodding tired at the moment and I can't stand it when I get to this point on sunday and feel it would have been easier to have been on my own all weekend.

We fight all the time right now, DH thinks I'm too soft. I think DH veers between being too 'childlike' ie giggling at throwing balls inside the house and far too stern.

You are not alone halia - I could have written that thread. My DH has been off work for the last couple of weeks with a knee injury and my life is soooo much more difficult. I am used to him working 6 days a week, so it's really hard to get used to him being under my feet around.

He also tries to be a best friend to our DDs
and they also play us off against each other. I think this is a common enough situation TBH. I know that plenty of mums I chat to at the school have similar complaints.

Maybe we are too set in our ways?!

Get yourself a cuppa and a big bar of choc and let it all wash away. That's what I'm doing.

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Yup, I could have written that post too

DH thinks I am too soft as I don't shout constantly, and he does exactly as yours does and is either silly or stern.

He works away Monday - Friday, so as far as I see it, the boys are used to my way, but he likes to try to change that at the weekend...which equals more tantrums (from the children and him) and me being very stressed.

He is away today (a work jolly to the GP) and is staying over in a hotel tonight to go straight to work tomorrow. A relaxing day has been had by all!

DH took 2yr old DD1 to the shop with him half an hour before dinner time.

"Don't let her have anything to eat, its nearly dinner" I said as they left.

"I won't" says he.

They come back and she has had half a packet of starbursts, and is busy trying to cram the other half into her mouth (paper and all) before she gets inside to mean ole mummy who never gives her sweeties (not this kind anyway).

When I asked him (reasonably calmly, I thought) why shes eating her bodyweight in starbursts RIGHT BEFORE DINNER, he started explaining something about DD1 just grabbing them off the shelf and then starting a tantrum at the hint of them being taken away. I think he realised half way through the explanation that it wasn't a good one, because he then threw a tantrum to rival DD about me criticising him. God I hate it when they try and deflect away from poor parenting by putting it all back on you.

He's still in a mood now, and DD went on a sugar rampage and ate no dinner.

Ah, sundays..

Control freaks.

No, I still don't like it when DH works weekends.

So glad its not me! I agree its that thing of DS is used to mums way of doing things during the week, when he's at home or at nursery he knows whats happening and whats allowed. Plus I'm generally doing housework and stuff too so he doesn't get the attention he does at weekends.

What is it with blokes, they decide they want to be big kids so they take em to the playground and teach them whirly gig games and feed em icecream. Then in the afternoon they yell you for nto beign strict enough cos the kids are overexcited, whingy and grabby for sweets in the supermarket.

(DS does have huge meltdowns etc with me too, I am in no way perfect. Its just that life is calmer when DH isnt' here!)

Although theres a difference between finding it easier and preferring it.

I always prefer to have DH around, even though its sometimes more straightforward when he's not.

thats why I'm getting worried about us, I actually prefer it when DH isnt' here.

My DH has been on holiday all week and I feel your pain. DH is a workalholic (IMO) but everything runs like clockwork when he is at work. DCs are hyperactive when he is at home because they are so excited to see him. Drives me nuts.

DH has been away for 5 days, and it is easier for me.

I do miss his comapany though.

My DP goes away for work, usually a few days or a week at a time, and I do look forward to it. My DP is a fusspot and useless at making decisions, so what I like is the freedom to just decide what to do all day with DS, no bickering or mind-changing about things like what to eat, where to go, etc. Also, it's a lot less messy at home.

But I do miss him and DS does too - DP adds an anarchic/unplanned element that is probably good for us - when it's just me I'm on top of everything, the beds are made, the kitchen is clean, I know what's happening and what's going to happen. Which is probably a weeny bit dull of me.