I've got zero sex drive - how do I get it back? DS is six months and although we've done it a few times since he was born, it's been a real effort on my part and I almost have to psych myself up and plan it in advance. I miss the physical closeness and have tried to get DH to give me more cuddles to get me in the mood but have no interest in the full-blown, mad passionate sessions which last for an hour. DH has made a couple of comments and we're pretty open in talking about it. For the first couple of months after the birth, I was scared to even look down below (forceps and stitches), never mind think about anyone touching me there and now, I know it doesn't look the same and it sometimes hurts on the outside where scar is. And my wobbly bits don't make me feel great about myself. But most of all, I just don't have the same sex drive, not news I know but need reassurance that I can get it back.