Stuck In A Horrible Position.

[Dilema]

This is very confusing and long but i need to get this out.

My friend K has 3 children all by different fathers, however she tells everyone including her family that her middle child is her current fiance's child.
This child has dark olive skin and black curly hair, K, her fiance and all her other kids are blonde and blue eyed so it is very obvious that the child is someone elses, her fiance agrees to say this child is his because K is embarrased about having 3 kids with 3 different fathers, K's family just choose to ignore the fact to save arguements.

However a while back after a drunken night out K told me that she cant be too sure who the middle childs father is as she slept with 3 different people around that time and is in serious doubt about her last child being her fiance's as she had a one night stand around the time her last child was concieved.
Now an old friend of K's has got back in touch with her and is claiming that her boyfriend is k's middle childs father as he is the spitting image of her and K did sleep with him around the time of conception, and K is denying that he is the father even though she admits to sleeping with him, she has said she'd even get a dna test to prove it, now it has backfired in her face as the bloke has said yes he wants a dna test, now K is terrified as she only said it hoping he would say no dont bother (i know she is very dumb).

When she first met her old friend she told her she had been with her current fiance nearly 5 years, now that all this about her middle child has come out she is now telling the friend that she has been with him for 7 years and that when she slept with her friends boyfriend she had a contraceptive implant, so the friend has now started pestering me about it all, and i am doing my hardest to stay out of it but i'm being bombarded with texts and emails and she has even stopped me in the street a few times. K has begged me not to say anything which i wont its none of my buisness, but i cant help feeling at times yelling out "yes this child is this blokes kid,and yes my friend is the worlds biggest liar"

It is only the kid that will get hurt in the end as she is being told that k's fiance is her daddy and she is too young to notice she looks nothing like them, K even went to the trouble of putting her fiance on the kids birth certificate a couple of years ago (not sure if that is illegal?).

Sorry i think i just needed to get this off my chest, thanks for listening to me ramble, i'm off to look up jeremy kyle for a bit of relief

You're right, there is a dilemma, but it's not yours to solve. Your friend has created her own mess and doesn't sound very bright to be honest. As far as being pestered by the friend, just do the broken record technique with her when she starts "none of my business" More than that you cannot/shoudn't do IMO.

I'm with Ispy. Your friend told you what she did in confidence, I presume. You have to keep it.

there is more to fatherhood than just the sperm.

if this man is being a good dad and role model to the child, then although situation not ideal, then at least the child has stability and a father

nothing for you to do except support her

she is going to get the truth sooner or later via the DNA test,

maybe it will press her to tell the truth now

Thanks ladies, i guess my main problem is, is that they are telling this kid that k's fiance is her dad, K has no intention of telling her otherwise. I can just imagine the trouble it would cause later on in life when this kid starts asking questions about her appearance.

I find it extremely uncomfortable being in this situation, but i am very good friends with her family and next door neighbours with her dad so i cant just avoid her for the time being.

I know that she wont admit to this bloke and his girlfriend the truth, i think she has told this lie so many times that she is starting to belive it herself.

So now i'm stuck with knowing all about this poor child and the fact that K had an affair whilst with her fiance and that the kid he thinks is his might not be, and he has no idea, i wish she never told me all this.