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does your dh/dp have many friends...

52 replies

lavenderr · 31/01/2005 22:55

are they the sort that come around to your house much? I know men have very different relationships to women in that they don't talk non-stop with their friends....is it a blokey thing or are we women eternally attached to their friends in a way that men seem not to worry about....

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fairyfly · 01/02/2005 00:07

My lovestick has many friends, its part of his charm, he looks out for them, loves them dearly, and i find it a very attractive quality. Until of course the footballs on.

Gwenick · 01/02/2005 00:09

lol - in this house it's rugby.......mind you I once made the mistake early in our Marriage of telling DH he had lots of friends are reeling off a list of his 'mates'.............he corrected me in no uncertain terms and explained that yes he got on very well with most of them, but the weren't 'friends' - they were just 'mates' and 'associates'!

fairyfly · 01/02/2005 00:14

they all call each other strange things like Mucker, Fella, laddo, son. Infact when i actually think about it they are a bunch of t@ssers

lou33 · 01/02/2005 00:17

do they all share a bath after footie ff?

fairyfly · 01/02/2005 00:19

They chest hug and slap each others backs

lou33 · 01/02/2005 00:21

in the shower?

fairyfly · 01/02/2005 00:22

i really really hope not, not a nice image when you have met them. They all used to snog each other to shock but that was when they were foolish little boys

lou33 · 01/02/2005 00:22

its a great image in my head, you should be there with me

fairyfly · 01/02/2005 00:25

ok, i'll pretend its other people (no offence lovestick)

munnzieb · 01/02/2005 07:27

DH often has his friends over, esp for tea!, (he'll ring up ask what were having and OK wel XXX is coming as well!)

anniemac · 01/02/2005 11:22

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MamaMaiasaura · 01/02/2005 15:30

my dp plays dungeons and dragons.. lol. bless him. So every tuesday i either have a house full or one of the guys girlfriends/wives do. Then they all sit around pretending to be an warrior, wizard or whatever.. and spend hours and hours playing. Although.. sad as i am i did join in the game for his birthday.

My sister is also married to a 'gamer' who spends hours painting little models of orcs and things..

I think men a big kids really.

Newbarnsleygirl · 01/02/2005 15:37

Dh has no friends!
I'm being serious! The only bloke he bothers with is his brother and all they do is play on the computer.
If I ever find out who invented pirates and Championship Manager......

I find it strange that he doesn't bother with anyone.

Tommy · 01/02/2005 16:13

Mine has a few friends - all from years ago and none of whom live nearby. I'd love him to have more but there are only 4 of them at his work and they're not really going to the pub after work types - although he would love to do that occasionally! Poor DH - I do try to make him be friends with my friends' DPs and DHs but he has to know someone for 15 years befopre he can really consider them to be a godd friend

Tommy · 01/02/2005 16:13

or even a good friend

DaddyCool · 01/02/2005 16:21

I've got friends but they live far away and I don't keep in touch much. DW's got her own friends and we occasionally socialise but really it's just DW, DS and me.

Oh... and I'm an a%$&£le so that might have something to do with it

Sponge · 01/02/2005 16:56

My dh has quite a few close friends and is better than me at making new ones - our nursery mates are down to him not me for the most part.
But we tend to see them as couples or he goes to the pub if it's a one on one lad thing (and I don't mean that rudely). They don't come round to the house for a natter but then I tend to go out for a drink with my girlfriends too.

jasper · 01/02/2005 22:58

good grief, just because somenone here has had troubles with their partner in the past does not mean they should be pounced upon for asking a harmless qestion.
Is Lavender not allowed to move on or be normal?

Libb · 01/02/2005 23:07

My DP has a healthy number of mates - some closer than others. They all love football so they are either round here or he goes round theirs . . .

I would prefer if he were into Dungeons and Dragons a bit more (he does have a small interest in this sort of stuff). Somehow I am not sure his footie friends would agree.

MunchedTooManyMarsLady · 01/02/2005 23:11

My DH didn't used to have many mates. I used to despair. He was always in and moaning that I was always out. However, recently he's started to go out with a load of blokes to play football, have a curry, watch a match etc. It started because I introduced him to a lovely couple I met at the school gates a couple of years ago. What's great is that he gets on well with both of them and it's given him the confidence to mix with other blokes and talk about more than just football. I call them his boyfriends. The fact that he is out with them regularly means that he's stopped moaning about me being out and about.

MamaMaiasaura · 01/02/2005 23:52

Libb, you really dont want him to expand on it you end up with a large group of men talking in silly voices pretending to slay a dragon and .. god it just is really really worrying after a while.. i walk through the room and it goes all quite like some kind of secret club. He likes footie too, but his other friends film amamutar dr who movies which he appears in too! Even got the calander of it on the wall. Ds is showing an interest in the d&d..

weightwatchingwaterwitch · 02/02/2005 07:13

Look, someone asked why the 'thuds' and I explained. Luckily I don't care if Lavender thinks I'm rude or 'has a go at me' as she puts it but don't shoot the messenger. People asked, I answered. Which I am perfectly entitled to do.

jasper · 02/02/2005 14:37

www I was speaking to the person who made the nasty troll noises.

I think it was completely out of order and reminiscent of schoolgirls ganging up on each other.

Nikkichik · 02/02/2005 15:21

We have friends together (other couples) but my dh doesn't have many friends of his own (and he hates football). He used to have a going to the pub after work crowd but that has drifted apart now and he's changed jobs. He does have one very good mate who is dour northerner (his words not mine!). They used to go climbing and walking together but since dd's arrival they don't see each other much as friend doesn't live locally - he's dd's godfather!. When they do get together they disappear off to the pub and have very intense conversations. Said friend is actually coming to visit and stay tonight and it's gong to be a bit tricky cos he and partner lost their newborn baby girl in October (long tragic story) and we haven't seen them since - God, what do I say to him!

lowcalCOD · 02/02/2005 15:22

mine has loads
he is an expert netwroker and always has a met who can help out
no one real best pal, though

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