Why isnt thing easier?? men and babies

[tiggerandpiglet]

Hi all

Cutting the long story short, me and my dp had a tragedy last year, our dd passed away at 9 weeks old, it was a huge shock, but we are trying to deal with it all as best as possible.

Well I feel I am ready/want to try for another baby, but my dp is abit dubious, I totally understand why, but its not really helping me, if my dd had survived bless her heart then I wanted one close together, and I am at thhis stage where I dont think I will ever be 100% happy in my life until I have my family....

I also feel I cant express to my dp how I feel all the time as i may push him away, we are both sooo in love but obviously its been a huge pressure on our relationship...

Both our parents are getting on and i feel like they are desperate for more grandkids...so its another weight, but mainly i want this so much ..

Why are men soo different when it comes to this, its not as if we are in our teens or mid/early twenties.... )not knocking this age but we are getting on)..

urgggg so hard... anyone have advice??

xxx

My sympathies to you both. Do you think that you DP has had enough time or opportunity to express his emotions about what happened. unfortunately, I suspect that most of the sympathy and support was directed towards you and that maybe your DP was left to "get on with it". Additionally, it would have been absolutely crushing for him to see you so distraught and to try to cope with his own emotions and perhaps he is desperate for it to never happen again (seeing you so distraught and trying to come to terms with it himself that is).

I cannot being to imagine what you both went through.