I like him a lot but I also worry that I might be conforming

[Wivvern]

I am in a relatively new relationship and things have been going really well. I am starting to feel in love but also wondering where the catch is. He funny, witty, very charming, educated (bit posh though), has a very well paid job, and the sex is amazing.
On the other hand he is a bit demanding and seems put off when I hold up boundaries and don't prioritize him.

I have a DD who is probably at an age where she'd be happy to see less of me at the weekends, but I don't want to (and feel that I shouldn't have to) de-prioritize time with her even if she prefers to spend it with friends. To be fair he has never said anything and just accepted me pushing back on this. On other matters not so much.
He admittedly seems to have a lot more experience in the dating world than me and whilst I enjoy our time together there have been moments when I wondered why on earth I went along with some of it. Again, nothing bad or dangerous, but looking back the next day I felt like that didn't seem like me, even though I enjoyed it.

I'm not sure how to describe it really. I absolutely love our time together but I sometimes wonder why I turn into someone else when I'm with him and do things that I normally wouldn't. This isn't just about sex btw but in general. It's quite disorientating.
I'm not sure what I'm hoping to gain from typing this down, apart from maybe hearing some thoughts from others who re-entered the dating world after a long break and who find it equally difficult to prioritize themselves sometimes.

What is it sexually you’re doing that you basically regret, as that’s what you’re saying, you do it to please him.

i think what you’re saying is you feel if you don’t do these things he won’t want to be with you and you’re so kinda desperate to be with him you agree?

Don't let him move in with you.

Proceed with caution! 😬
If you aren’t a ‘strong’ person in terms of maintaining boundaries then end it now. It’s going to end badly for you and you won’t even realise it’s happening.

On the face of it, you being pushed to try new things and enjoying them doesn’t seem a bad thing… but there is obviously something about him that has your senses tingling (in a bad way) and perhaps you have a gut feeling that he isn’t as great as he is presenting himself to be? As a PP said: Proceed with caution. You should be able to be yourself and feel completely comfortable with a potential partner. Not questioning and behaving like who he wants you to be.
A long time ago I was in a relationship with a person who was a bit of a ‘bad boy’ but we had fun. Once we split up I realised I hadn’t been ‘me’ around him and that actually he didn’t know me at all (I’m not sure he cared to either).

I think all the good stuff he showing you is blinding you to the red flags that are fluttering OP. His 'excitement/enthusiasm' is actually him coercing you. Him being put off or disappointed when you say no doesn't mean you've made the wrong decision. Start enforcing your boundaries when you don't want to do something, otherwise he'll learn that keeping on will wear you down. If you saying a firm no changes the way he behaves towards you then that tells you something.

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this doesn’t just sound like being with someone new who is encouraging you to try new things and have new experiences and your happy about it. It seems like you feel uncomfortable sometimes or not like you can decline.

also the fact that you seem to feel a bit torn or a bit like you sense his disapproval if you prioritise your daughter over him.

NEXT!

I get that - no idea how old but I am 50 and I guess set in my ways much of the time, preconceived ideas etc... I have not been coerced into trying things but in my most recent relationship we have both done things outside our comfort zone in the interests of compromise and trying new things. Sometimes they are rubbish, other times it's "why didnt I do this sooner". For me that part and parcel of a new relationship. Both have to adapt and compromise.