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Is this flirting?

45 replies

RedSugarMaple · 05/11/2026 18:16

Two work colleagues who - I would say - have been noticed by others as being very close. Male said: "I'll save your experience for another time (wink & tongue out emoji)" Female responded: "You can have my experience anytime you want (wink & tongue out emoji)".

OP posts:
DontLiveByTheClouds · 05/11/2026 21:10

Why are you flirting at work?

RedSugarMaple · 05/11/2026 21:16

I am not. Colleagues are. It is not forbidden at work to flirt. Maybe not recommended, but not illegal or misconduct.

OP posts:
MJEBinAthens · 05/11/2026 21:23

Just get on with your work and stop being nosy! I always say “don’t shit where you eat”, but a) it’s none of your business, b) it’s not going to affect you c) yes, they are being unprofessional and d) why do you care anyway? 😂

RedSugarMaple · 05/11/2026 21:26

I am not being nosy. I was asked for advice. I am friends with both. That is all. It's amazing how some have read much more into this.

OP posts:
MostlyHoldingItTogether · 05/11/2026 21:27

What a very bizarre post!!

LemonPuppyPorkChop · 05/11/2026 21:29

RedSugarMaple · 05/11/2026 21:26

I am not being nosy. I was asked for advice. I am friends with both. That is all. It's amazing how some have read much more into this.

Of course you’re being nosy. What normal person registers that two colleagues are standing ‘15 to 18 inches apart’ when talking?

RedSugarMaple · 05/11/2026 21:31

As I said in one of my first posts, one of the two concerned shared this information. I am out now.

OP posts:
JSovro · 06/11/2026 20:41

Yeah that’s an innuendo… not appropriate at all

LemonPuppyPorkChop · 06/11/2026 20:42

RedSugarMaple · 05/11/2026 21:31

As I said in one of my first posts, one of the two concerned shared this information. I am out now.

Including the precise number of inches apart they were standing?

BlondeCircus · 06/11/2026 21:06

Surely you know what flirting looks like

Freebliss · 06/11/2026 21:33

Let them get on with it not hurting anyone.
Or do you feel it should be you in her place?

Agatha1989 · 06/11/2026 21:38

Are you jealous? Do you fancy one of these people?

Dimsumthang · 06/11/2026 22:08

RedSugarMaple · 05/11/2026 19:02

I was sense checking. Thank you, all.

Very well spotted miss marple now less of that and more work focus. Thank you for the attention

user1492757084 · 06/11/2026 22:27

Yes, both are flirting on equal terms it seems.

Mcoco · 07/11/2026 13:19

Lookingforwardtospringnextyear · 05/11/2026 20:48

Sorry OP but you are coming over as quite creepy: Watching what they are doing and observing their body language. Reading their messages. And wanting to talk to them about their relationship.
If neither of them are married what is the issue? Is their behaviour in the workplace so inappropriate they need warning to tone it down?

Edited

Maybe OP is just bored at work and these flirtations are making the day entertaining 😂

BaronessBomburst · 07/11/2026 13:32

I think the OP is ND and is trying to make sense of the behaviours. I have a friend at work who often asks me similar questions and wants me to explain people's interactions to her.

Annteeta · 07/11/2026 16:23

RedSugarMaple · 05/11/2026 21:26

I am not being nosy. I was asked for advice. I am friends with both. That is all. It's amazing how some have read much more into this.

Advice about what? Do you fancy one of them and want everyone to say "no they're not flirting ' so you feel better and still in with a chance?

swimsong · 07/11/2026 16:44

RedSugarMaple · 05/11/2026 21:31

As I said in one of my first posts, one of the two concerned shared this information. I am out now.

One of them is you, I think. You want to know if he's merely flirting with you for fun or we consider and advise that he'd be happy to develop things with you.

TellingBone · 07/11/2026 16:53

Isn't it interesting how AI keeps trying and failing to learn human emotions and nuances? 😂

TouchMyBumThisIsLife · 07/11/2026 16:55

BlondeCircus · 06/11/2026 21:06

Surely you know what flirting looks like

Some people don't.

Some people actually take it as people being sarcastic.

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