Would you put up with this?

[OnTheBrink2025]

1. Questioning his plans: He raised his voice and swore when I asked about his plans to deliver money, accusing me of questioning him.
2. Sarcastic compliments: He made comments about my appearance in a sarcastic manner, making compliments feel insincere or mocking.
3. Disagreement about rest: When I questioned why he could go back to bed while I did not get the same opportunity, he shouted, "Cos I fucking work all week."
4. Being told not to question him: He told me that I should not question him and that he does not have to answer to me.
5. Our child's request to see him at school: When I told him our child wanted him to visit her educational setting, he suggested I had "set him up" and appeared irritated rather than enthusiastic.
6. Questioning my mental health: He asked whether I had a split personality, referring to my biological mother's mental health history. He has also described me as someone who blows hot and cold.
7. Ordinary requests causing irritation: After I made three everyday requests, he complained that it was all too much and that I was asking too many questions.
8. Reaction to a meal: He became irritable because he disliked a meal I had prepared, despite having enjoyed it previously, and refused to eat it.
9. Childcare and family planning: He responded impatiently when I tried to discuss childcare arrangements and family activities, leaving me feeling unsupported in shared parenting decisions.
10. Criticism in the car: He rolled his eyes and criticised me for repeating myself during an ordinary conversation. I became upset and started crying.

Context - in early 30s, 2 young children. He works full time, I average 26 hours a week. Been together 13 years. He was not always like this. Have had couples counselling beginning of the year

Just be careful with it because it can get in all twisted thinking you are right even if you aren’t.

That said, he does sound awful and I hope you work out how to move forward, whether that means leaving him or somehow his attitude changes 🤷‍♀️

(Directed at OP) Yes, plus writing anything yourself forces you to engage with the issue in a much more involved way rather than be presented with 'facts' you are likely to believe. This is especially important with a personal and difficult subject.

Speaking from experience, as I used to use AI for personal situations until it repeatedly gave me terrible advice - which I only discovered when it was too late.

So my advice would be to take AI with a (big) grain of salt and challenge it often, if you use it at all. You may see that it will likely change its stance to any position you take.

How are you doing today OP?

What was the domestic abuse programme called and how does the GP say it will help?

He sounds hard to deal with. I suppose you can speak to him about it. Or seek counselling with him to discuss issues with a middle man. Tell his family about this.