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Losing faith in my relationship

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Lina42 · 02/11/2026 09:45

Partner and I have been together 2 and a half years.
Hes 43 and I’m 45 both divorced, he has a high powered job and I work in a shop.
He’s a very quiet man, does not really talk much about himself or life and even less about his 15 year old who I’ve met twice.
He told me he’s going to buy a house so we.can move in together it’s obviously been on the cards from day 1 we both wanted to settle down together.
whenever he’s with his daughter he never asks me to join them and it’s really hurting my feelings as it doesn’t seem coherent with us living together.
Am I being unreasonable?

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SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 03/11/2026 07:06

SilverPink · 02/11/2026 15:36

House in his name only?! Oh no no no. If you’re living together why aren’t you buying together?
And when is he planning on introducing you properly to his daughter?

She's better off living in his house rent free just paying towards bills than tying herself into a financial commitment by buying a house with him. This isn't a long relationship or a marriage with children.

Userregs · 04/11/2026 09:15

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Bananalanacake · 04/11/2026 18:13

Say no if you don't want to, keep living separately, keep your own space and independence.

Prycejosh1987 · 04/11/2026 21:57

Its reasonable.
I think you should air out your concerns with him and discuss your state of happiness with him. Work through it with hugs and kisses and acceptance on both sides.

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