I know people won't "know", but interested to hear any ideas on why. My older sister (coming up 60 this year) has stopped talking to me. I tried ringing recently and asking how she is what her plans are and she didn't answer phone and texted one word replies or just ignored me.
Now we have been really close in the past - lived together in flats in Brighton when young and Dublin and kept a really close relationship (with ups and downs) for a long time. We both had children and our kids were very close.
I later got married and she completely fell out with me beforehand and told my ex (child's father) that I had hooked up with a new man and it would all be terrible. So between my ex and my sister - they tried to ensure that my relationship did not last. She got my ex to speak to my new bf and say that I was a terrible person. My bf ignored them both and we have now been married for 23 years.
Roll on and I decided that life was too short and we made up. She split up with her daughter's father and so when she was working, I helped out most weekends with looking after my niece, plus she and my daughter got on really well. This went on for many years and I tried to support niece as much as possible.
My husband and I moved away - so a fair distance and had a baby. My husband and I have been a great team, He has been the best dad to my daughter (and my son) and she is all grown up and they are very close. My niece and my daughter stayed in touch, but have increasingly become more distant as adults and now don't seem to talk. I have been away (as adults) with my sis, niece (28) and a friend on a number of occasions, weekends away (no issues).
Sorry - it's long - I went away with my niece early this year as she wanted to try skiing - i had got us a good deal and paid some extra and we went away. I had been suffering anxiety, but was most of the time in good form. However on 3rd night of hols - she lost her shit and decided she was not enjoying holiday, because I had accidentally disturbed her in her sleep 2 nights (by turning over in my bed). We ended up disagreeing and she had been nasty to me over those few days. As a result we no longer speak.
My sister and I have still been in contact since and even been away for a weekend with 2 friends a few months after the holiday and she said all fine and she understood as hols can be a strain and also niece can be overly emotional. We had a nice time (shared room - no issues). Spoken quite a few times after that - talked about going abroad.
My friend contacted me - said sis had taken herself off group chat - was supposed to meet up with her, but as soon as friend suggested bringing her bf for drink later on - sis said no longer wanted to meet and is now incommunicado. When I texted her and sent pics of my hols recently - got pretty much silent treatment.
Sorry - that was long but wanted to give background. I would really appreciate any theories on what's going on. Reached out asked if she was ok - blanked me. Asked if plans for 60th - she replied "yes thanks". This was after number of texts and calls. In end texted to say as you clearly have no wish to communicate - I will take hint.