For background, DH and I, both late 30’s, two kids in primary school, steady relationship, I’d consider us both happy, general life demands, nothing out of the ordinary.
Was on DH’s ipad this morning, I know the passcode, he knows I know the passcode. He only really uses it for watching sport on, I wanted to use it to look at the hotel we’ve booked for next year, it’s easier to see it on a bigger screen than on my phone.
Anyway, I looked at the photo album on there, there are pictures and videos of the kids when they were tiny and I look at them every now and again, when I use the ipad, which is infrequent, maybe twice a year.
Anyway, there was a video on there of a woman, looks to be homemade, not porn, being touched intimately, she is awake and aware by the looks of it. Graphic, nothing left to the imagination, the video was about a minute long.
That video wasn’t there last time I looked at the photo album. It’s got the geographical tag on it and it’s the area DH lived before we got together and the video has a date of 2015 on it, so I assume it’s him and an ex. It was at the bottom of the screen of pictures/videos so I assume it’s been added to the ipad recently. That’s how my camera roll is laid out on my phone, new things are at the bottom. So he’s obviously kept it for a long time, on his phone maybe? I don’t know the phone passcode.
I feel a bit sick about it all, why has he got a video like this? It it him and an ex? Does she know he’s still got the video? I can’t tell if I’m under or over reacting but I’m so uncomfortable about it.