Reporting an ex

[ChinChilaa]

Currently facing a dilemma of whether or not to report my ex for assault after he spat in my face whilst I was holding our 1yr old daughter. He did this on her 1st birthday. She was already distressed from his shouting. The dilemma I face is that his mother is begging me not to involve the police and I fear that if I do she will also turn her back on my daughter so it will ultimately cost my daughter more than my ex as she could potentially lose contact with her half sister and grandmother if I report it.
I feel I owe it to my daughter to report it and make him face consequences of his actions towards not just me but to his own daughter after then walking out of her life on her 1st birthday. He has also warned me off making a report to police so I just feel so conflicted but more so for my daughter and the relationships she might lose with her dad's side. He has chosen not to be involved in her life too. All a huge mess 😔

Report it. Don’t teach your daughter that this is acceptable behaviour

You can report it. But unless it's SA the police wont be interested.

Report him. He’s infact given you more reason to do so by threatening you not to report.

Why is what his mother thinks more important?. It’s not and her loyalty lies with her son. The rotten apple that is your ex did not fall far from the rotten tree. You both need radiators in your life, not drains and she is not a safe person to be around either.

Teach your dd good relationship lessons, report him. He should indeed face consequences for his actions.

SA?

SA?

Spitting in still assault

I'd report it because why would you want a woman like that in her life anyway?

But unless there were witnesses or he admits it (doubtful) don't expect to get anywhere, as sadly it's your word against his.

I’d report it for sure. If his mom thinks this is an acceptable way for a man to behave especially with a woman then maybe she shouldn’t have much to do with their granddaughter.

I would imagine SA means sexual assault. Anyway, you should absolutely report this as it’s a criminal offence and demeaning, abusive behavior. As for this man’s mother, she should be coming down on him not pressuring you not to report.

Report it

Nothing will happen for a spit. Just dont be around him now. Only hand overs in public and no communication about anything that isnt the kids

if you report such concerning behaviour from your child’s other parent (the right thing to do) and the grandmother is so angry that she decides she can’t talk to you or their own granddaughter that is clear sign something is terribly wrong in the their family dynamic and you’re much better off not having them in your life

Yes I would report him. His mother is out of order - if one of my sons did this I'd be so disgusted and want him to face the consequences of his actions!