Please help. I’ve been separated for around 16 months from my husband and recently he filed for divorce while simultaneously saying he still loved me and he wants us to be a family again. I left due to abuse, threats, toxic behaviour but nothing physical. This wasn’t daily, we could have a normal life together but he had a nasty streak and controlling behaviours.
Things have been very nasty since we separated, we went through the courts and there was a number of false allegations from my ex in relation to the DC. He also shared all court documents and private information with the DC when I tried to protect them.
In a nutshell, he’s admitted to being abusive, taken accountability and apologised. I confronted him about the allegations and he said he was “repeating what dc told him” and how he felt like we were at war. We’ve now been meeting up and discussing potential reconciliation however he now wants to be lovey dovey, hold my hand across the table, he tries to kiss me and acts like we are a couple madly in love which I find jarring. I have now agreed to trying again and moving back but he refuses to move slowly and wants me back in 3 months at the latest.
I can’t help but feel like I have tentacles that are slowly wrapping around my legs/body and I’m being pulled back. It’s all moving very fast and I don’t know how to stop it.
But the other part of me wants it to work somehow especially as oldest remained with his Dad and I don’t see much of him. Ex said I’ve got the opportunity to be a parent to him again. So it is complex and I’m so confused.