This could be hideously long so apologies if it turns out to be. I've also namecahnged , but one thats reasonably obvious if you know MNers
Abut of background first.
MIL hated me, she accused me of staying with DH to get her money, said ds1 wasn't DHs, called me names, slagged off my family, ignored us in teh street....a whole load of stuff resulting in me stopping her from see the children. Dh would always say it was the drink, she never meant any of it which is ridiculous because there isn't a drunk person on earth who could lie....IMO/IME drink makes you dangerously honest.
I NEVER said DH couldn't see her but he didn't for teh last 18months or so of her life. His choice. Not mine.
I was relieved when she died because I thought I'd be free. I thought it'd be over.
So, yesterday we go to a car boot sale and dH gets acall from BIL asking him to come and look at aboat some one was selling (BIL was atthe boatsale too) DH dutifully trotts over to meet him.
They arrange with teh bloke to go a see it later in teh day and then bid on it if tehy like it (it was on Ebay too)
They see it, like it and come home to bid on it.
I'd already told DH that I think he's mad to even concider it. He has 3 kyaks in teh garden for a start. Neither of them knwo teh 1st thing about motorboats so I think its ridiculous.
SIL says she thinsk they are mad too. There about 5 minutes left on teh auction and we try to tell them how mad they are being.
I say they no nothing about boats, nothing about maintaining it, its dangerous etc etec etc. NOway are the children going on it.
BIL raises his voice at me saying he's sailed a baot with ropes and sails etc, why is this more dangerous...they've gotto start somewhere etc etc.
I did have a slightly louder voice then normal but its my house. BIL was IMO a little aggressive with his tine which I thiught was waaaaaay out of order.
DfuckingH just stood there giggling.
The organ grinder and teh monkey springs to mind TBH.
Anyway they were outbid on it so until tehy find another one its over but I feel sooooo let down by DH all over again. I asked him not to buy it, I told him why and he just stands there liek a lemon letting BIL decide.
It feels exactly how it was with MIL. DH never defended me, alwasy said she didn't mean it and yesterday while all thsi was going off in my kitchen he just stood there giggling.
I told him this morning that he was out of order, and asked how he would feel if I was going to do something that he concidered dangerous and foolish only for me to ignore him and giggle when someone else uses aggressive tones.
He said I took it the wrong way.
FFS.
Its MIL revisited.
I have HUGE issues because of teh way she treated me. Massive issues that prob need professioanl help to be properly laid to rest.
Dh just thinks that becaquse shes dead it shoudl be over, I don't need to worry about it anymore.
Its not taht easy. Apart from teh fact we have 4 children, Dh works shioft how teh bloody hell I;d arrange any pro help is beyond me.
Having him giggling and giong along with everything BIL said yesterday felt so disappointing.
I'm fed up it all TBH
Prob loads of typos in that....sorry.