be offended if new partner said this?

[KitDog]

Earlier on I was in a sports centre with my newish partner (6 months) and my son (7). DS had just finished his tennis lesson and before we came out partner said he was just nipping to the loo.

Me and DS waited for him outside the toilets in a small, quiet coridoor and DS started being a bit silly and popped his head around the mens toilets door and shouted "are you still having a poo?" but quite loud. Two men that were walking in laughed as partner walked out looking red faced.

On the way out of the centre partner then asked if DS had "some kind of hyperactive or bahviour disorder" as he "seems pretty wild sometimes".

I'm actually quite upset about it, am I being over-protective?

jeez balloon slayer - i was talking about a new relationship between child and potential step parent hardly the same thing. and a really really complicated testing of boundaries tends to take place. and it was the child testing the bloke out not the op.

I know you were moopymoo, I was just taking the piss, sorry.

Unfortunately this all boils down to whether one thinks the child was unacceptably rude or whether it's a case of "boys will be boys."

Personally although I think his comment (implying some kind of bowel problem?) might be ok-ish said in a teasing fashion at home, it is absolutely NOT ok shouted in a public place in order to humiliate someone and make other adults laugh at his expense.

So to me the boy was unacceptably rude and I can't dress it up as boundary testing. You are obviously a far nicer person than I am.

I expect your DP was embarrassed at your DS's bad behaviour. Did you tell your DS off properly for being so rude to your DP?