Without going into things too much my Husband used to be a weed smoker, we agreed over a year ago he should stop, I was very upset as I was very against it.
I found out last week he had been using again for 8 months.
When I found out I was devastated, it was a total breech of trust, he was buying with money we simply did not have, he was lying to me and worst of all he was smoking whilst on VERY high doses of depression medication
Anyway, before I found out he had a night at his mates, he was supposed to be spending the evening with me but 'dumped' me in favour of a night at his mates.
He said he would be home at 11pm, at 11.30 I rang and he said he wasn't coming home
I waited
he came in at 1.30am.
Last week, it all clicked, all the times he betrayed me he was smoking,
he was smoking that night.
He has just said he wants to go to his friends tonight.
How can I trust himt hat he wont smoke??
He promised me last time and treated me likea mug for 8 months!!
When I found out our marriage was close to break down, i even made him leave for 2 nights.
At the time he was all 'oh its just you and me, no more nights out, no more smoking'
But now less than 5 days later hes already wanting to go out and im worried!
How can i trust him,
but how can I keep him here if he doesnt want to stay in with me?
I feel like shit
this cloud is hanging over us and I don't know how to lift it