anybody here had experience of a relationship with a narcissist?

[confusedmamma]

I've just read this book about loving a narcissist. It seemed to sum up my relationship with an ex completely. Has anybody else had experience of this? Anybody else think the theory is rubbish and just an excuse for bad behaviour? Come on down all wise MNetters. What do you reckon?

I have.

At least, I thought I was in a relationship with him. It was only much later that I realised he was in a relationship with himself all along. I was an accessory - a source of fuel for his self-esteem and a kind of masturbatory aid.

So probably just as well this man's an ex, confused.

Mind you, when mine said he was leaving me for my own good, he never spoke a truer word. I just didn't believe it at the time (and of course, neither did he).

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