I want to be in IN LOVE again...

[Pheebe]

Firstly I must say I love my DH deeply, he (along with our dcs) is the best thing that ever happened to me

Now here's the thing, just heard a song that was constantly on the radio the first summer we were together. Best summer ever, makes my shiver and smile to remember it.

We've been married 6 years this year and have a great life, 2 beautiful ds's and are generally very happy...so what are you whinging about I hear you cry...well I want a bit of that first summer back occassionally...any ideas...

Well, i have a time machine you could borrow

go away for a dirty weekend. sans children , of course.

ok will check out ebay for second hand time machines and keep you posted

i think plan a weekend away is a good idea....

or a date night> go seperately somewhere to meet him for a date

I like the idea of a date night

i think it could work really well....

good time to spend without kids, make some future plans for you all

maybe even book a hotel room.....

Yes, I like that more and more. I'm sure ils would be up for babysitting, they keep hinting

My friend suggested I had an affair - but with my DH - to get back on track. Close and 'unexpected' encounters...steamy trips to the cinema, unexpectedly meeting in a bar.

Of course, options may be limited depending on babysitting arrangements!

lol bb I suspect dh would be a little bemused by that...perhaps thats the way to go

go for it..... you have nothing to lose only gain gain gain

make a plan and let the in laws know they will be having the lovely grand children.....

great time will be had by all....

it'll never happen-you are married- smell the coffee.

Aw, girl next door. That's not very nice!

I think all the above are great ideas. Getting away just for one night can help you get your mojo back.

It's peaks and troughs, innit?

Could you start dating each other again?

Meet for coffee at lunch, meet each other at venues like the cinema (after work) so you travel separately and great each other as adults rather than mum and dad, Set one night aside each week/ month each that you have to entertain the other partner i.e. you might do a romantic night in and arrange for the DC to be at a friends or book a sitter and suprise him by booking a table somewhere or going to the chip shop and sharing a bag of chips whilst going for a stroll through the park. Then on his night he reciprocates.

I'm from a major failed marriage but I think one of the many things that went wrong for us is we got lost in being mummy and daddy and were no longer seeing each other as adults or individuals in out own right IYSWIM.

Good luck

Sorry- let me elaborate- psychologists say that "falling in love" is a biological state caused by chemistry in the body. (Shakespeare didn't call it a madness for nothing!)

We are programmed to feel as if we are "in love" for between 1-2 years- the time it takes to have a baby and wean it, whilst cave-man goes out and hunts for food for us both.

I am sure you can inject some romance back into your relationship, by having dates, time to yourselves, etc. but that wonderful " in love feeling" doesn't come back- unfortunately, that is why a lot of people have affairs, as they want to feel that mad excitement again.

For me, the best bits of the first few months of a new relationship is the flirting, getting to know someone and probably most importantly the anticipation. Unfortunately you can't recreate that. I think you can get a bit more romance in your marriage but that's usually when one or the other has had a moan about it and therefore you are both 'trying' harder. I miss the spontineity which comes from only having yourselves to think about - and not putting the children first!