Anyone ever split up over a bag of crisps?

[MrsMacaroon]

Tonight I was sitting on sofa breastfeeding DD to try to get her to sleep (2months old)...DH was upstairs putting older DD to bed. Got late and realised that he had probably fallen asleep on the floor of her room (he sometimes does that LOL). I knew he wanted to watch a programme so I banged on the floor hoping it would wake him up, sure enough it did but it also woke up DD1 after I had spent an hour feeding her to sleep...I told him this and started to feed her again when he went and got a bag of crisps, opened them and sat beside us rustling them furiously...peeved I said 'SHHH' and he threw the crisps away and went into massive huff, giving me dirty looks etc. He is so moody it drives me fucking crazy. I just said 'you can't be serious!' and he said 'don't give me that crap' and buggered off to bed.
We've already had a big chat this week about the way he reacts to me- passive aggression, huffs etc and thought it had an impact on him.

I know it sounds like a small thing but jesus, it makes me want to divorce him.

Dont divorce him just yet!
I know what its like though, I do think sometimes its lack of sleep and the stress (as well as the joy) of a new baby that makes us over react to things..maybe he is tired...i know dont shoot me ..you are too! But us women cope better..

...i know what you mean...my DH only has to have his legs sticking out whilst he's lounging around watching telly... whilst i'm trying to hoover...and depending on jmy mood...yes...the trivial things could easily tip my balance!!!!

I'd also divorce him for fiddling around with my car seat/mirror when he borrows my car

seriously though...my SIL gave birth a week ago...trying to establish BF.... i visited ...and she asked her DH (MY brother) to make us a drink...he refused.
she then said he's like that alot- and i was cross with him as it's important she eats/drinks regarding BF...so i made the drinks...and HE did not get a cuppa!!!

this is so very bloody annoying. but it's just while the dc's are small and you're short of sleep. it was actually you who woke her by banging on the floor . and yes. he shouldn't be eating crisps noisily right by her ear, but perhaps he was wanting to keep you company.

remember, you're both on the same side, and go and get some sleep.

He's got a cold but that's no excuse- he's always a moody bugger... it's just so OTT, almost pre-menstrual style dramatics. Surely it's my job to over-react. I thought that was my god given right as a woman.

Do you think it's worth having an argument about? I would like him to understand how infuriating his passive aggression is but I feel like we've done that subject to death and he's still the same.

Babyinarms- you're right, women do cope better. Men are wimps.

Thanks MUM23ASD- maybe hoover his legs?

warthog- you're right about me having woken her up but i thought i was doing him a favour!

marriage is a pile of shit, I don't miss it at all

Sounds very irritating. But I'd suggest leaving him to sleep. If there's programmes he/you don't want to miss you can maybe record them - I still seem to only see a very occasional programme I wanted to see at the time it was shown after 13 months. Yes, he's being huffy and silly but you're getting cross with him and he's upset by that too - and I've been there!

Deep breaths and counting to 10 required!

I find dealing with Dh is just like dealing with Ds sometimes...just walk away and shout inwardly , breathing deeply and counting to 10....sometimes though a good old fashioned arguement is more rewarding as you get it all out there..thats with DH of course..and not DS!

Dont know if im making any sense tonight..need to go to bed..

MrsMacaroon, you made me laugh, thank you. At it being our job/right to over react, I mean. dp and I have been bickering about not being able to get our ds to sleep this evening and he's sort of acknowledged he was being unfair earlier.

Men are infuriating creatures.

Both get some sleep, and failing that when it gets too much you'll always find a sympathetic ear or 10 here.

Wisteria- it is a pile of shit sometimes but it has it's moments

i know i should get some sleep but i've put the wee one down now, everyone is asleep and i can sit in peace, watch crappy TV and eat shit so bollocks to sleep I say!

(will regret this in morning)

Not to mention Mumsnet - I'm going to bed but there are others still up, and it's daytime for some people in other parts of the world.

oh god, too tired to watch re-run of Corrie

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

sounds like my dp... i've learned to laugh at him and ignore it tbh. only way to cope!

Go to bed. You remind me of us 20m ago. Dp got so stressed one night that he could not do anything for DD that he hit the wall. Unfortunately it was plasterboard and his hand went right through At the time it was the end of the world but actually it is funny now. It was very out of character for him.

It did make me realise that my hormonal whirl was not just about me and DD but was making his life hell as well. Yes he got more sleep than me, yes he got to leave the house alone every day but at the end of it he had to come home to a clingy baby and a stressed Partner as well.

We made a pact to be "nice" to each other and it helped.

Hope you have a good night. X

There is a thing with parents of little babies where you are both entitled to be a bit ridiculously crap some of the time. Eating crisps in an annoying fashion is very VERY annoying but so is banging on the cieling. But if the worst thing someone does is munch crisps then, you know, let them live.