Me and DH have been in separate bedrooms for years due to his snoring and thrashing about with nightmares. We don’t do anything together, don’t speak other than ‘what do you want for tea, can you fix that tap’. The obvious answer is to end it, but I know that I’ll never want to get involved with a man again, but I also don’t want to be lonely. I’ve told him in the past that I want to end it, he said no and that he’d change, but he didn’t, so he’s had opportunity to leave and hasn’t.
I think our main problem is that we don’t talk. I used to speak but somewhere along the way he made me feel like every request was nagging, so I stopped talking. I wonder if having someone else there will give me the confidence back to speak, but I know that it’s not about listing your complaints. I think that, given our long shared history, we could be good company for the rest of our lives if we could just communicate.