My shy 18 year old asked me to be his plus one to his internship gala and I'm still not over it

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Today was one of the happiest days of my life, and honestly I'm just a proud mom right now.

My son is 18, he worked as intern to a charitable NGO throughout this summer, and they are hosting charity gala next week and he has been invited and can take one plus.

For context he is so shy one and soft, my other two daughters are completely opposite him.

So today I was doing my work and he was standing there like 5 minutes. Then he asked, he was invited to gala and can I come with as his one plus, he wanted to talk me because I'm good at social events. And he said dress code is I have to wear gowns, not like something normal I wear for other events.

I simply told him yes, and only if he wants be good gentleman and do something small for me, and told him send me invitation so I can look. He went.

I didn't show him how much I was proud and flattered when he asked me. I was so happy inside, my son who was just little, and he recognised I'm good at social events, it's made me happy.

Honestly, I never thought he'd want to take his mom, who's in her mid 40s, to the gala.

I'm going to wear my best and do my best, I will make him bit embarrassed 😂 but yeah I'm happy.

What has this got to do with England? Or not, as you assume?

but I agree, a lovely gesture. I see no concerns

I think it's lovely. No one is ever to young or old to take their mum to an event. I don't know why some PPs have an issue with it.

That’s lovely. I’d ignore people saying to tell him to take his sister. We have interns at my job and I must say it has been a humbling lesson to realise how old even the youngest employees seem compared with them, it’s a gulf.

It’s not like his job, where he might want to build a big cohort of friends eventually potentially, this is a place he has spent a short time with people ranging from a bit to a lot older than him. He already knows the crowd and he has made that judgement. Nowt wrong with taking you and you should bask in the compliment.

I think it’s very sweet! As he is so shy it must be quite a big deal that he worked for the NGO and wants to go to the gala. It’s a charity event and perfectly fine to take his mum if he wants to. I don’t think it will reflect on him in a negative way at all. Do you know what you’ll wear?

You are his safe place that's why he asked you, he's feeling nervous he comes to you
it's absolutely beautiful 😍 hope you both have the best time.

That’s so wonderful to read!

Also I didn't show him how much I was proud and flattered when he asked me I’m sure he’ll guess from the way you behave at the gala but do tell him anyway how proud and happy you are to have been asked.

Not sure why this is in relationships. Also this isn’t cute it’s a bit sad IMO! He will probably be bullied for it!

Bit shit to pick on someone for how they speak / express themselves

It's not his prom, it's a charity gala for a company he's done an intenrship with. Who's going to be bullying him - C Suite execs?

And if it's weird to take your mum along, why would it be less weird to take your sister? At least people won't confuse your mum for your gf!

That's so lovely 🤩
Have a great time and let us know how it goes

Odd

I think it may be viewed as a bit odd, but if hes really shy I'm sure people will understand. I would really encourage him to take a friend instead though, if he has any. Use the money you would have spent on a gown and give it to his companion so they can get gala ready. If he doesn't have anyone then go with him as a last resort.

This seems familiar ,I think it was prom one possibly if not it was a strange set of circumstances.

Not sure it is something to be flattered by, it’s a shame he doesn’t have a friend to ask instead. Your reaction is a bit creepy too

I’m not picking on anyone.

I’m pointing out it’s odd and I’m sure if you’re honest with yourself you’ll agree.

How I felt about this would all depend on my DS.

A popular, sociable and confident 18 year old who I know could have easily found a female friend (or male) to go with him… but he asked me because he thought it meant something special to me? I’d be delighted.

A DS who has no friends, unsociable… I’d feel sad

It’s not a prom. There will be people of all ages there. When my friend won an award she invited her DS and they both flew to America and had a ball.

What's an internship gala when it's at home?

As lovely as this is, I really think you should encourage him to bring someone closer to his age, turning up with his mum will be perceived as immature unless others are going with their mums.

Acrually I think it’s worse if he’s a bit shy. It will look like he could only bring his mum. If he’s hugely outgoing and extroverted and efeyeone knows he’s a million friends, then it would be considered doing something nice for his mother.

Any young adult or old ass adult bullying someone for taking their parent to a work gala is an asshole that should be ignored.

To be fair I’ve taken my dad to casual work events when I’ve had no one else to go with and he generally goes down well because he’s a laugh, and he’s very extroverted. He also hypes me up a lot which is nice. Internship gala is a bit different though, sounds more formal? Also it’s the start of his career and unfortunately people judge you harshly, and this could be something that gets him judged.

I think it’s sweet. I like when celebs bring their mother or father to events/galas.

So you made him get you an invitation and you plan to embarrass him? Why? Thats odd

I think it’s likely that the OP is ESL and not of British culture. Her phrasing is of a more traditional culture I’d suggest. Maybe somewhere in Asia.