AIBU to feel let down by my friend after opening up about what I’ve been going through bc

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AIBU to feel let down by my best friend. For background she has a baby who is now 9 months. I have an older child. We have been best friends for most of our lives from childhood.
We had a catch up recently, hadn’t seen eachother in around a month. I told her I’ve been having a very hard time- my child has been ill in hospital (she knew about this), work issues and I’ve just found out my recent round of IVF hasn’t worked. Feel like I have a lot on my plate and she listened and asked questions. But since then (2 weeks ago) I haven’t heard a thing from her. I guess I expected at least a follow up but maybe I’m expecting too much?

Did she get a chance to talk about her struggles? Or did you just offload onto her? She might have found it a bit full on and one sided.

Really sorry and in the kindest way....
When my kids were that age of I was going out to meet a pal I wanted light chat, fun things, anything away from nappies, lack of sleep, feeding

Yes I was there for people to hear about struggles but.... I never got out....

So if it was me I would ignore messages. My energy would be on survival with no sleep.

Look at your support group and other ways to get what you need.

She did, it wasn’t a very one sided conversation, we talked about how things how been for her etc

I know and I understand that, I’ve been there too with a young child but I guess even then if I knew my best friend was going through an awful time I would check in

If you've not heard from her, maybe she's having a rough time too? It's not a competition, just drop her a message and say how are you!

She hasn’t got it to give. You should let her off the hook imo.