Hi all. Difficult topic for me to raise but here goes.
Myself and my partner got together many years ago. Got married in 2015. Right at the start we discussed kids and both strongly agreed that we didn't want any. Happy relationship thereafter.
3 years ago my partner turned around completely out of the blue and said that they wanted a baby. I was shocked, and felt physically sick. I said no. We argued tooth and nail about it for months. They were under no illusion how I felt.
Threats were made to get a baby by another route if I didn't agree. I felt so under pressure and at fear of losing my partner that I felt completely backed into a corner and that I had no choice. It was lose my partner or go along with it. I continued to try to get out of it, declining sex, which only prompted properly frightening outbursts.
Fast forward 2 years and we now have a gorgeous little boy, who's just turned one. We've barely had intimacy since after he was born. My partner shows no interest in me at all.
Throughout, I've felt violated in some way, no matter how much I love my little boy. Something just feels wrong about how it came to pass. I know I always had a choice, but it didn't feel like that at the time.
Am I being overly sensitive?