It's of the most paramount importance to get sleep. Sleep deprivation is a form of torture, and can make you ill, mentally and physically.
Not getting enough sleep harms your brain, immune system, and heart by causing slower reactions, weaker defences, and higher stress hormones. Healthy adults need 7 to 9 hours of sleep each night to let the body repair itself.
Brain and Mind
- Slow thinking: You cannot focus, solve problems, or remember things well.
- Bad moods: You feel angry, sad, or stressed out very easily.
- Slow reactions: Your body takes longer to move, which raises your risk of car crashes, and harming yourself if you operating tricky machinery.
Body and Health
- Weak defence system: Your body makes fewer infection-fighting cells, so you catch colds and get sick more often.
- Weight gain: Sleep changes your hunger hormones, making you want to eat more sugary and fatty foods.
- Heart strain: Your blood pressure goes up, raising your long-term risk for heart disease and stroke.
If you have the opportunity to have a separate bedroom from your husband, ALWAYS do it. Even from the beginning I felt irritated by sharing a bed with DH, as he rolled about a lot, and grunted, and farted, and breathed heavy in my ear and on the back of my neck. He would often take up 80% of the bed too, leaving me hanging on the edge, with about 10% of the duvet! He even hit me in the face a few times with his arm swinging over onto me!
After we had been together 10 years, living together for 8 years, and married for 5 years, we got a house with enough bedrooms so we didn't have to share!! Never shared with him since. (Together 30-ish years now.) I even book 2 rooms when we go on holiday. Yes it costs more, but OMG it's soooo worth it.
We have been on a few coach trips, and on one of them, as DH and I were handed our TWO room keys (room 201 and room 202,) several women in the coach party behind me (with their husbands) gasped and said 'how come you've got a room each?!' I said 'we booked separate rooms, cost a bit more, not even that much, about 15% extra for the 5 day trip. We always do and we both sleep like babies!'
They were all like 'oh my God I wish I had known that!' whilst slightly scowling at their husband! 😆 A few of them said they will definitely do that on the next trip.
Sharing a bed with your partner is really outdated IMO, and harks back to when people were poor, and cold in their home, and sharing a bed kept them warm together. Middle and upper class people generally have separate bedrooms. Always have had. (Maybe not for the first 3-5 years of living together as some people feel obliged to share a bed with their spouse, but the novelty of THAT soon wears off!!) Posh people have pretty much always had a bedroom each. Super posh people have their own wing in the house! As I said, they always have had.
It always baffles me too that some people think you can only shag in bed at night! 😆 Like, if you don't share a bed and a bedroom at night, you can't possibly be having sex. DH and I have inexplicably always managed to shag 2 or 3 times a week, (some weeks more) despite sleeping in separate bedrooms since our mid-late 30s. Call us crazy, but we generally go to bed to sleep!
tl'dr @Middleagedmanagement Go back to sleeping in separate bedrooms. It's utterly divine! 😍 Perfect sleep, and privacy, and your own cosy little space! 2 grown adults sharing a small 6ft X 4ft bed indefinitely is untenable IMO. Even if you get a bigger bed, you can still hear him snoring and grunting and farting. And fuck noise cancelling headphones! 😆It's my own room or the highway!