Constant Arguing with DP

[DazedEmma]

I have very recently got back with my ex but we argue so much. One minute we're all over each other, excited about the baby etc and th next we're arguing and one of us storms off. He winds me up and says I take him too seriously and that I've lost my sense of humour since getting pregnant but we argued like this pre-pregnancy. Are we just not right for each other? When it's good it's great but when we argue I can't stand being around him.

Is this 'normal'?

Well my DH and i have our 'good' times and 'bad' times like all couples, i think you need to weigh the scales up, do your good times outdo your bad times? Also is this your first child together? I ask because babys put an awful amount of stress on relationships and can cause the best of relationships to break up, so you might find having the baby will be make or break.

What do your rl friends think? Hard for me to say if you are right for each other as I don't know either of you. Arguing isn't good but I think we all go through phases of arguing, could counselling be an option? What about writing down things that you know trigger a row and try to both work on avoiding causing a row or just walk off before a row starts, ideally you don't want to be having huge rows when baby comes along, babies take a lot of your time and energy you don't need someone else sapping you of the energy you will need to care for your baby imo.

With my ex he never helped we argued he sapped me of everything and it was easier to do it alone, with my dp now he helps me far more than he hinders me and we get on well most of the time, we have a big row every now and again but we both know we don't mean a word of it and we always make up before bed.

Only you can decide if it's worth it.

it's our first baby and was a total shock, I'm 20 and he's 35 and he left his wife for me but it didn't work out so we went our seperate ways, met up for 'fun' every now and then which resulted in my shock pregnancy and part of me feels we're only together cos we feel forced to by our baby and I feel quite bitter because part of me expects him to leave again when she's arrived. A lot of our arguments end up in him walking out and me saying" yes, f**king walk out AGAAAAAAAAAAAAAIN" and he keeps telling me I can't keep throwing that in his face if he expects us to even attempt a go at this... but I can't help it.

i think you both need to realise that putting a small baby into the mix is (however lovely the baby is) only going to add to the strain 100x. perhaps you need to think about getting some relationship help NOW, before the birth....

i think you both need to realise that putting a small baby into the mix is (however lovely the baby is) only going to add to the strain 100x. perhaps you need to think about getting some relationship help NOW, before the birth....