Does anyone else have no friends?

[Cathyhon]

Like the title says, I literally have zero friends.
I’m a 27-year-old woman, and I haven’t had a friendship group since secondary school. Over the years, my school friends gradually drifted apart, and I never made any long-lasting friendships in college. I work in a small office now, and most of my colleagues already have their own established friendship groups, so it’s been difficult to meet people.

I try to tell myself it doesn’t bother me, but the truth is, it really does. When the weather is as nice as it is now, it somehow feels even worse. Seeing groups of friends out together, or people on social media spending time with their friends, really gets to me. I just wish I had even one friend to do things with.
The area I live in doesn’t offer many opportunities to meet new people either, which makes it feel even more difficult.
Has anyone else found close friends later in life? Is there still hope at 27? I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been in a similar position. Thank you.

Well, you're not alone in being in that situation. But do know the ebb and flow of friendships is common, where many friendship lessend or end. It's why people shouldn't keep all their eggs in one basket, and to put themselves out into the world to be meeting new people.

I think you might be assuming there isn't much going on socially in your town, but maybe you haven't done enough research. Years ago, I went on a cruise and it ended up that there was a lot of dance clubs from my city and state onboard. I'd never even know there were so many dance venues for East Coast and West Coast Swing Dancing in my area if I hadn't taken that cruise. I'd never even heard of that type of dance. Since it looked like fun, when I got back to town, I took dance lessons for that type of dance which had a dance that followed with a live band or a DJ. And because of that, I met someone who took Tango and took Tango lessons.

So start Googling activities/events going on in your area or nearby towns, and you might be surprised at things you didn't know were happening.

Some libraries have book discussion groups, and classes to learn to crochet, to sew, to do origami, etc. Look into art classes, cooking classes, volunteer environmental cleanup days. Meetup.com groups.

You never know who you might click with. But don't be too overeager to make a bestie. Some friendships take time to grow. Some people might just be a friend you spend time with at the activity but it doesn't progress to getting together outside of the activity. Sometimes friendships progress and deepen. Make sure you're getting as much effort as you're putting in so it isn't one-sided.

Time to try new things since you won't meet anybody holing up at home every day. Good luck.

Are you in the UK? Move to London.

I agree, have a look at what's going on in your local area and get involved! Friendships don't just happen, they take effort and time to get to know people and see who you hit it off with. Join a ladies running group, netball, football, darts, skittles, book groups, social clubs, gardening groups, nature groups - just have a go at some things and see what happens! Or you can volunteer, it's a good way to meet people or you could post on local Facebook groups asking other women who'd like a social group to meet up for coffee & cake or a drink? Putting yourself out there takes a bit of courage but it's worth it. And you'll have lots of new experiences too!

I live in London and have no friends at all. Not one.

What kind of people are you drawn to? What do you bring to a friendship? As in, who will find you appealing as a potential friend?

I have friends but no one to socialise with. I live in London and used to have loads of friends but they have all left town for cheaper housing. We chat on WhatsApp and very occasionally meet up but I have no one to go out with in the evening for a drink and chat and really miss that. I'm pretty friendly and chatty...I just don't really know how or where to make new friends

Find a boyfriend. Sharing income, going out together, holidaying, plus all the warmth, sex and all this

I really do think hobbies are a great way of meeting people. I made a lot of friends through a book club (they drifted after a falling out unfortunately and I had some stuff happening which meant I wasn’t available and then I drifted from the group that was left).

There are women only travelling groups you could join?

Join a choir.
Join a pickle ball club.
Join a hiking group for young people / a wild swimming group / running club.
Move?? It's sometimes easier to make friends in a new area because you can openly say you need to find a new friendship group..

I do think a lot of people are in the same boat, I just started making friends again through having kids (and only two I really connect with) but it is very much around our children. I’m planning to move country next year so I have to start from scratch again and I find it hard to form friendships anyway. It’s not just you OP, loads of people struggle with this.