Did anyone who initiated their divorce regret it?

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I’m in the process of separating from my husband for a number of reasons but fundamentally because I’ve been unhappy for a long time and despite previous promises to change it never happened. Now that he can see I’m serious he is showing a lot of changed behaviours and has kept some of these up for a few months now which is longer than before but there is also the same pattern with other things.
The part where I’m wondering if I will regret this is that I still enjoy spending time with him and when it’s good it’s really good. I’m worried that we will separate and I’ll still be unhappy just in a different way and will regret this decision, and wondered what the experience was of others?

Most divorced women on here seem happy with their decision.

I actually still liked my ex when I started proceedings, but knew I didn't want to be in the exact same situation in 5 years' time.
When I first broached the subject of our marriage, and the fact it didn't seem to be working; his response was that he was happy.
No regrets at all.

Do you believe the change will last? If it does last would you be happy?

what do you imagine being a divorced version of you to be like? Is it realistic (or too positive/negative?) would you be happy in that version of your life?

I don’t think anyone can really tell you what to do, especially without knowing your reasons or how you feel. But if I were you they would probably be the questions I’d ask myself.
I imagine you didn’t just come to the decision of divorce with no thought though.

No.

What I regret is marrying him in the first place. We could’ve just co-parented and saved ourselves a lot of heartache and expense.

Didnt divorce but seperated and he died 2 years later. I felt very guilty/sad though I know his death was not my fault but I honestly still beleive he'd still be here had we been together. So regret it in that respect only.

If the change genuinely lasted then I think I could be happy but I really don’t think it will and I’m not sure I could cope with the heartbreak of thinking he’d change and it going back to how it used to be.
I think I’m quite realistic about what being divorced would be like, probably overly pessimistic but I also think I’d be less anxious/more at peace compared to now

Never ever regretted instigating my divorce. I regret that I waited so long to do it. And, I agree with you, OP, I doubt whether your husband's improved behaviour will last.

edited for typo

People don’t change