Husband had an affair - advice needed! (Part 2)

[Strawberrina]

Hi All,

My previous thread has reached 1000 comments and so I'm starting a new one. Here is the link to my previous thread: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5311466-husband-had-an-affair-advice-needed?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

Thank you for all your words of advice and support. I read every single one of your comments.

Curious…do you have free access to his phone and email or are you expected just to blindly trust that everything is over? Wondering as you clearly are concerned still.

Not to make you worry but there is an other thread on here where the husband restarted an affair after going on a conference. So I understand your concern. Perhaps not going is a consequence of his actions? I certainly wouldn’t be at home worrying if he had put me in that position.

I’m so sorry OP, I missed your previous thread but it must be very hard to move on from this.
Is he genuinely remorseful and staying at home to rebuild, or just wanting to carry on as usual? Was something missing in the marriage (usually sex or attention) where he was filling the void elsewhere and you can change that?
I think it’s quite unusual to be able to move on from an affair tbh but some people can. He’d need to clearly be all in on you and the family though or you’ll just feel suspicious and lack of trust kills a relationship. Sending much love.