Can anyone give me some advice here? My friend's dad (68) is married to an absolute shitwitch. She has been trying to separate him from his (adult) kids and his grandkids for a while now. She constantly tells him he's ugly and disgusting. Last weekend she called the police and accused him of abusing her because he made a joke about her false teeth. This morning she woke him up by pouring water on him and calling him a fuckwit. My friend has been speaking with him a lot and trying to support him but they live 3 hours apart so it's not easy. She can't text him, because his wife takes his phone and reads all his messages, so they can only talk on the phone when he calls her.
He has always worked with kids and young people so he's seen abuse but it's hard for him to admit it's happening to him. He wants to end the marriage but his wife is telling him he won't get anything from a house sale. She has been financially abusing him for a number of years. He's retired (68), she's still working (57-ish).
I've found a helpline number for men who are victims of domestic abuse and my friend's going to call and get some advice. Is there anything more she or I can be doing to help him get safely out of the situation? Anyone with experience of this? The abuse is escalating.