Long story short, we have been together most of our adults lives but it’s never been happy. I am criticised and belittled on a daily basis, and he shouts constantly. He says he wouldn’t shout if I didn’t do everything wrong. Even my father in law says he feels so sorry for me. It’s like water off a duck’s back though at this point.
We have separate rooms and live mostly separate lives. We don’t talk about things in our lives unless we must. We don’t go out together unless essential as he embarrasses me.
I gave up on him changing long ago and I was dumb to think he would. People don’t change.
He wants to stay together in this arrangement though as the dual income life works for him. We own a house together and he has a lot of disposable income as a result. When I have said I am not happy and this should end he either gets very unpleasant and says I would have to sort out EVERYTHING or he says how much he loves our life and I feel guilty. He says I should be grateful I have an ‘easy’ life (financially).
I know people leave marriages everyday but I feel like it’s harder if the other person doesn’t at least agree it’s the right thing to do.