Life after relationship in 40’s

[Robotcustard]

Can someone please tell me that there’s life after a breakdown of a long term relationship at 45? 2 preteen DC. Feel absolutely worthless.

I hope so. I'm in a very similar position but 44 with a preteen and a teenager.

My ex has already moved on to the woman he was having an affair with. I too feel worthless and humiliated.

Sending you positive thoughts @Robotcustard
I could also do with some positive stories!

Well, what sort of life do you want? People make new friends, build new social groups, take up new hobbies, find new relationships etc at all stages of their lives - and 45 is still young. You don’t have to take everything all in one go, just begin making small steps which move you forwards - things you’ve always wanted to do, changes to your lifestyle you’ve often wondered about but haven’t had the time or headspace to make.

You haven’t given much detail about home and child arrangements etc - but here’s your opportunity to have a home which is exactly as you want it; and time when your DC are with their dad to focus on you alone.

Been separated about a year now and honestly, its great. We are all so much happier and relaxed. I have a new house - smaller but I love it. New man - which I wasn't looking for, but lets have some fun after years of unhappiness, taking things very slow. Active social life with no guilt. Less money, but we will make it work. Look to the future, how you are feeling now will not last. You are not worthless, life changes, and you will adapt and see the positives soon.

You never know what’s around the corner! But you do have to put yourself in new situations to shake life up a bit.