Suddenly noticing men

[Emearldprincess]

I have been in a 20 year relationship, with the past 4 years being sexless. That’s mainly been down to me , with what I thought was due to the perimenopause.
however, a few weeks ago we agreed to split. Since then I’ve been noticing guys - something I haven’t done for years .
does this sound like my libido is returning and has any else felt like this following terminating a long relationship?

Maybe because you have your choices back rather than feeling pressured (even if it’s just psychologically) to WANT intimacies.

Before it would have seemed like a chore. It now you have freedom it seems more like an interesting possibility.

Yes, but on a much shorter time scale and not related to peri.

I was in a 2.5 year relationship in my early 30s, and in the last 1.5 years of it, I completely went off sex / stopped fancying ex-DP. Within a few months of the break-up, my sex drive came back and I started fancying men, dating, hooking up and what-have-you.

Sounds like you were just with the wrong man. Enjoy making up for lost time!

Thank you.

it might be psychological and that I associated sex with him and I have now broken that association. It became very functional when ttc and never recovered