Wedding venue question

[Baggiesfan]

Just a random one, M here,engaged to a lovely woman we are looking to get married next year, my second her first and we're both in our 50s.
We only want a quiet wedding with family and a party a week later.

Anyway, my question concerns the venue for the wedding. Because we only want a quiet one the local registry office would be the obvious choice but that's where I married my ex wife 27 years ago, would that put you off or are we overthinking?

Most hotel type venues want to host a whole day and night and price accordingly but we just don't want that.

Well it wouldn’t put me off personally, but it only matters if it puts you or your fiance off, so does it put you off?

It wouldn’t be important to me, but I think you should be asking your wife to be. Some women are overly- sensitive about these things

The same exact venue would put me off a bit. Could you go to the next registry office even if you have to travel a bit? Maybe make a day of it and get a nice hotel and dinner out?

Personally no but might be worth checking with your wife to be. Often there are several rooms available so perhaps choose another of the rooms.

What @ToKittyornottoKitty said.

I believe you can get married in a different registry office though - next town to you - if that bothers you, or your dp.

I wouldn’t want to get married to someone at the same venue that I said my previous (failed) vows, no. I mean, it only matters what you and your fiancé think. If it doesn’t bother either of you, it’s fine, I guess. It would bother me if it was my wedding though. Can you not opt for a different registry office? Or ask for a list of local registered venues? There has to be a pub function room somewhere that won’t cost £5k.

Thank you for the replies, both of us have slight reservations about it but we were talking to her mom a few days ago about it and she said it doesn't matter and it's about us
We don't have another registry office really close

My DS and DIL went away to a lovely hotel for 2 nights on their own. They got married and wore beautiful outfits. Hotel staff were witnesses. When they came home they had a party in a local pub.

Does it have to be really close? It’s your wedding so maybe go a little bit further away from home for the ceremony to make sure you have no regrets!

No I would not like that at all. Go to the next nearest one. Some towns change them every decade or so.

We don’t have many at all where we live, not one in our town currently. We are both adamant we will not marry in the closest in a beautiful place (25 miles from us) as my DP’s parents married there and later divorced. It just doesn’t feel right.

Have a look at National Trust properties. Many can host weddings. I had mine in a castle. It cost under a grand for a small wedding on a Friday (22 guests in total). Lovely time was had by all.

Lots of hotels do packages, usually named “just for 2” which are for small ceremonies which include a mini break packages.
It may be the case there is other venues than registry office itself. We are getting married in September and have booked the ceremony in a room in the town hall rather than the registry office itself.