I am separated from my husband after years of poor mental health (his) and his constant inability to keep on his medication. I am still his carer. Its our 20th anniversary next week and I am so angry! I told him he needed to go to therapy and do CBT when all this started. He said he couldn't see the point. He was sectioned 2 years ago and the psychiatrist told him to under no circumstances come off the meds. He came off the meds. Why I asked him why he said he didnt know. He ended up in the same position. I told him this was his last chance and not accessing treatment was my line in the sand. He did it again so I told him I was done. The thing is, since I've done that, he's been taking his meds, started going to group therapy and doing CBT and its made a difference. He's not the same as he was, but he's at least responsive and will do things. But I am furious! Our DS just finished his A Levels and has had to deal with this crap throughout and now when its all over, he's all chatty and sitting cheering on the football! I have done all the Uni visits, all the revision timetables, everything and all he had to do was take his meds and try and keep on an even keel if not for himself for his son while he was going through stressful exams. He failed to do so. I keep looking back to 20 years ago. We had such a fab wedding. We had loads in common, had loads of fun together for years. We were 'Smug Married's'. Facebook memories come up of us with the kids having fun on holidays, at the beach etc. I went to visit him in hospital, worked, paid all the bills, looked after the kids, drove him around everywhere. All he had to look after his own health. I didnt even ask him to get another job ( although he did do several jobs before having to quit because he couldn't cope) He's thrown it all in the bin because the alarms on his phone telling him when to take his meds were annoying. He's stolen the last years I had with both my DC's at home, and hes tainted our childrens teenage years with worry. The fact that he is so much better now is infuriating when if he'd just done all the things he'd been told to do 2 years ago it would have saved all this.